Hello.

I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member. I think you should relax a little and just enjoy the concert. Maybe it would help to rethink the idea that everything has to come with an allowance. You enjoyed the concert. If you received an allowance afterward, that’s fine. If not, you can simply think, “I had a good time at the concert, though…” And if the concert was a total flop, I think it’s perfectly fine to say, “Sorry!” if he invites you again.

Maezawa from the president’s office here. There’s also a chance he considers taking you to the concert itself to be your allowance. For example, if it was a concert you said you wanted to go to, that possibility is even higher. In that case, I think you’ll avoid disappointment if you go assuming there won’t be any allowance. That said, before deciding to go to a concert or somewhere else in the future, you could clearly say something like, “Even for a date, I’d like there to be an allowance.” That should prevent any misunderstanding about your expectations. A man may intend to provide an allowance for an adult relationship (intimate), but outside of that, he may mistakenly assume that his partner is happy just spending time with him. To make sure you’re both on the same page, you could casually bring up things like: “A friend of mine who does papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) was complaining that she didn’t receive any money after going on a date. She said an allowance is normally expected even for dates. I felt bad for her—it sounds like he wasn’t a very good papa (a male supporter).” If you mention things like that from time to time, he may come to understand that, from a woman’s perspective, receiving an allowance even for an ordinary date is normal.

I’m Basil, a male member. I’ve gone to concerts together a few times without an adult relationship, and I gave her the actual transportation costs plus an extra ¥5,000–¥10,000. Since I’m inviting her to fairly nice concerts, I think that’s more than enough.

I’m Paper Airplane, a male member. What’s the usual pattern? If it’s been about the same amount of time as usual since you last met, there may be an adult relationship afterward. If you met just two or three days ago and had an adult relationship then, I’d assume there wouldn’t be one that day. In that case, it would be a no-intimacy date between adult dates, so you’d probably receive about the same allowance as for a dinner-only date. In either case, I think you’d receive at least the usual allowance for an adult relationship. If it ends up being less than usual, then the papa (male supporter) is being a little inconsiderate. That said, I also feel you don’t need to focus quite so much on the allowance.

I’m Kazu, a male member. Hello. I think every man has different expectations, and there may be an adult relationship (intimate) waiting after the concert. If you really want to know in advance, the only option is to ask him directly.