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Jun 28, 2021 21:59
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🏅 大阪の昼寝引きこもりトレーダー
スペ90以下のひとを厚く囲い込み、一生面倒見て実質一夫多妻で大切にしたい独身です。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m in Seattle.
Does the person asking have an annual income of 100 million yen or assets worth 1 billion yen?
If so, they might naturally be able to pull off the trick of having someone exclusively to themselves.
Other
I’m Shingo Lee, a columnist.
It’s in a man’s nature to want to keep several women around while not wanting other men to take them away.
But a man who tries to keep women by controlling them is third-rate.
The only things that can truly bind people are attraction and shared memories.
I do my best to improve myself and create more memories with the women I’m seeing. I don’t try to control them—I simply make an effort so they won’t be drawn to other men.
And I don’t chase after anyone who leaves. When someone moves on, I just focus on becoming an even better version of myself.
Other
I’m a BB7 male member.
I’m not into cuckoldry.
I’m seeing multiple people myself, so that keeps things balanced. Since I’m dating multiple partners, I can’t really ask the other person to be exclusive.
If I were seeing only one person, I might end up wanting to have them all to myself. So, in the end, dating multiple people is the best choice for me.
🏅 パパ活歴7年目突入
彼氏/既婚/他パパ/セフレOK/全力応援
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m columnist Fuu.
I used to feel jealous when I was younger, but jealousy doesn’t really fit this type of dating club. So, depending on the situation, I date multiple women to manage my emotions and spread out my feelings. You get jealous when you focus on just one person, but seeing several people helps take your mind off it.
Looking at things from the female members’ perspective, limiting yourself to one partner comes with various risks. If he cuts things off, there’s no guarantee of any more allowance. People can also suddenly change their personalities. There may be times when the woman herself wants to end things. For female members, seeing multiple papas is a form of risk management.
If you really want to have someone all to yourself like a young person, then you could offer terms that the female member finds acceptable and make the relationship exclusive. But if you absolutely want to control and restrict your partner, wouldn’t it be better to pursue a normal romantic relationship or get married instead of joining a dating club? Then again, even in romance or marriage, exclusivity isn’t guaranteed—there’s plenty of infidelity, after all. It’s complicated.
Humans are animals too, so wanting to be intimate with many high-quality men or women in order to pass on superior genes is instinctive, right? (笑)
Does it really have to be just one person? I recommend that you let go of that idea and start seeing multiple people too. It’s fun.
🏅 あなたの味方
お役に立てれば幸いです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
I’m Maezawa from the President’s Office, and I’ll answer this one too.
> I think it’s only natural to want to have a girl you like all to yourself.
If you like a girl, I think it’s only natural to want to have her all to yourself (by marrying her).
So why not marry her?
If you really like her, you should take care of her until the day she dies…
Is that what you’d call a normal feeling?
Huh? That’s what you were asking, right?
Hmm?
Have you realized that what you’re saying doesn’t make sense?
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
I’m with Kazu!
> If you’re a papa (a male supporter) who meets a woman’s needs without any major shortcomings, you’ll naturally be the only one left.
I agree.
In my case, the woman I was seeing alongside other papas naturally ended up seeing just me—or at least, I believe she did. It didn’t take all that long.
🏅 ４０歳でリアル異世界転生したオッサン l 元金融マン → 現ＡＩ界隈
出張ホストの実技試験合格してるので、対女性への無難な前戯とかマナーに一定の知見あり。
Age: 40s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Flagmaker, a columnist.
I’m serious by nature, so if I had exclusivity with someone, I’d feel that I was taking on “responsibilities” and creating “obligations.” Since I can’t shoulder that much responsibility, I have no desire to make anyone exclusive to me.
On the other hand, the women I’ve been seeing lately keep taking breaks or leaving the club on their own, which is causing me a bit of trouble. I’m the kind of person who feels pressured by that alone. Being a secondary or third papa is much more comfortable and suits me best.
If I asked a woman, “I want you to see only me,” and she agreed, I’d feel that I could no longer end things whenever it suited me. I’d also feel obligated to pay at least a fixed amount in allowance, regardless of how often we met or what we did. My motivation for dating periodically drops, so I can’t make that kind of promise.
Besides, I don’t usually get that emotionally invested in women I give an allowance to. The only time I get emotionally invested is in those messy battles where no allowance is involved.
🏅 倶楽部女性のご主人様に潤いを！
Mパパ、永遠の交際継続中！
B1タイプ〜A寄りパパです！
会う度大人は嫌と感じる方………ご相談ください。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
Women have the right to choose, so I leave it up to them whether they choose me.
Why not work on becoming more confident and making yourself someone they’ll choose?
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Kazu, a male member.
I actually find it interesting hearing about women’s relationships with other men. Besides, I’m not the type to get that attached to a woman. I’m not prepared to take responsibility for her for the rest of my life.
Also, one woman alone can’t fulfill everything I’m looking for, so I want to date multiple women. Since I want to date multiple women, I don’t think it would be fair to ask them to see only me.
Even putting control aside, for these reasons, I simply don’t feel the urge to have someone all to myself.
Even without demanding exclusivity, if you’re a papa who leaves a woman with little to complain about, you’ll naturally end up being the only one who remains.