I’m considering papa-katsu with an adult relationship, but I can’t quite take that step because I’m concerned about stubble and yellowing teeth.
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A lot of people seem to care about things like hairstyles, clothing, body shape, and general grooming, but I feel that relatively few men pay proper attention to skincare, beard removal, teeth whitening, and so on.
If we’re only having dinner together, I may notice those things, but I can overlook them.
But if it goes beyond that…
Honestly, I find myself thinking I wouldn’t be able to kiss him.
I do think a certain minimum level of cleanliness is important, but am I asking for too much with my standards? Am I being overly particular about cleanliness?
I’d like to know what would be a reasonable baseline to set.
What’s the point of asking other people where the bare minimum should be?
If I had to put it into words, I’d say the line is simply whether you personally feel it’s acceptable.
Naturally, it’s different for everyone.
Marika
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I’m a male member, BB7.
It grosses me out, and I’m not into that kind of thing at all, but sometimes I look at older men I pass on the street from the perspective of “if I were a woman” and wonder, “Could I be intimate with this guy?”
There might be one or two out of ten older men where I think, “Maybe I could manage him.” With most of them, I feel like I couldn’t stand it.
But once they go as far as beard removal and teeth whitening, they start looking so overdone—almost like an effeminate guy—and that grosses me out in a different way.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s office here.
> I do think a certain minimum level of cleanliness is necessary, but am I expecting too much with my minimum standards?
> Am I just being overly germophobic?
If you’re asking whether it’s excessive, I’d say it probably is a little.
But everyone has different standards. Some people are so germophobic that they won’t touch the straps on trains, or they press elevator buttons with an object because they can’t bring themselves to use their fingers.
If that’s someone’s personal standard, I think it’s easiest for them to act according to it.
You won’t die if you don’t do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
There’s no need to force yourself.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
I whiten my teeth too, but I don’t really know since I don’t tend to look closely at other people’s teeth.
Teeth inevitably become more yellow with age. So most men doing papa-katsu are probably going to have yellower teeth than you… In that case, maybe you should avoid papa-katsu arrangements that involve going to a hotel.
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I’m Fuu, a columnist.
Smokers will inevitably have yellowish teeth, and men with thick facial hair will inevitably have a five-o’clock shadow. If there’s no unpleasant odor, I think it’s perfectly reasonable to be okay with yellow teeth or a five-o’clock shadow—but since this is a matter of personal preference for you, feel free to set your own standards without forcing yourself. It may reduce your chances of finding someone to date a little, though.
I’d suggest waiting for an offer from a papa (a male supporter) who doesn’t smoke, has no yellow teeth, and isn’t particularly hairy and shaves properly. They’re definitely out there. Before COVID, I attended several club events and met multiple papas, and I was surprised by how polished everyone looked. They clearly put a lot of effort into their clothes and grooming.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
As the expression “chemistry” suggests, it’s different for everyone. I don’t think you need to force yourself to go against your own feelings or adjust them to suit someone else.
That said, I don’t do skincare or beard removal either, but I’ve never been turned down for it...
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Ayase Nana ♡
What about you, questioner?
Are your teeth white? Do you have bad breath?
Does your intimate area smell okay?
Even without perfume, do you naturally smell nice?
Many papas have plenty of money, so I feel like a lot of them have white teeth.
They also seem to shower before meeting.
And not all of them ask for kisses. Some are okay with things down there but don’t kiss, while others have different preferences. So why not try signing up for now?
If it really doesn’t work for you, you can always take a break from the service.
Oh dear… the staff might get mad at me for saying that (汗)
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I’m date◎yume, a male member.
There’s no need to push yourself. I think you should simply stick with Type A when using the service.
Even with Type A, you’re both adults, so if you meet a man you really click with, an adult relationship (intimate) could still be possible depending on how the relationship develops.
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I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
I think you should feel free to set whatever terms you’re comfortable with, without putting too much strain on yourself. There are probably a fair number of men who would meet those conditions.
Also, since you’re prepared for an adult relationship (intimate), as I mentioned quite a while ago:
If kissing is off the table, men will probably go to the sex industry; if kissing is okay, they’ll likely turn to a club (papa-katsu). That’s a major factor. If you can’t get past that, papa-katsu probably isn’t for you.
That said, I do think you’ll be able to find a papa who’s okay with kissing…
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I’m Basil, a male member.
I don’t take care of my skin, get my beard removed, or whiten my teeth, and I don’t pay much attention to my hairstyle, clothes, body shape, or overall grooming either. Even so, things have progressed to an adult relationship with more than 60% of the women I’ve met.
Regardless of what the women who dated me really thought, I’d say the person asking this question is being excessively particular about cleanliness.
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