I’m a first-year university student in my 20s, and I’m worried because I haven’t received any offers.
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In my profile, I’ve included my background and the types of dates I’m looking for, while keeping things vague enough to avoid being identified. I’ve also uploaded two selfies and registered my calendar.
However, I still haven’t received any offers...
I’m actually a University of Tokyo student. Would mentioning that in my profile increase the number of offers I receive...?
Honestly, I’m short and slim, and my figure isn’t anything special. I’d say I’m fairly cute, but I’m definitely not exceptionally beautiful.
During my interview, the interviewer asked me about my struggles and entrance exams, and we really hit it off. I was accepted on the spot, so I feel like I was chosen more for my background than my appearance.
Maezawa from the President’s Office here.
Some men do prefer highly educated women, so mentioning a school like the University of Tokyo may increase your chances of getting an offer—but it also increases the risk of being identified.
For that reason, it’s risky to name your university specifically. If you want to mention it, it would be better to say something like:
“I attend one of the top five universities in Japan.”
or
“I attend a well-known university.”
That level of detail should be enough.
If a man likes highly educated women, he may still become curious and be more likely to make an offer.
You could also tell the staff your university’s name and say, “But please don’t include it in my profile.” Then, if a man asks, they might respond with something like:
“She attends a truly impressive university.”
So I think it would be best to tell the staff the truth, but ask them not to disclose the name to men.
Even if you don’t receive an offer right after registering, one may come later.
If you’ve only just registered, I think it would be a good idea to wait a little longer.
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I’m Nana Ayase, a female member.
Being a University of Tokyo student is wonderful, as Mr. Taro says. Since you’re so smart, why not think up a few different strategies? I hear there are Kyoto University students who started companies while still in college. I really love people who can think flexibly like that. You have a promising future—I’m rooting for you ✨
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I’m Basil, a male member.
What’s your dating type?
If it’s Type A—or even Type B when the staff comment says you lean toward A—you probably won’t get many offers in the first place.
Misrepresenting your dating type is a bad idea, but if you’re not opposed to an adult relationship (intimate), how about choosing a higher type or mentioning in your profile that you’re interested in an adult relationship as well?
If you also hint that you’re a student at a top university, I think some men will show interest. In my case, I like girls from prestigious universities, so if I find her reasonably attractive and she doesn’t seem to have any personality issues, I’ll at least add her to my favorites.
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I’m Hikoki, a male member.
The safe choice would be to write that you attend a national or well-known university, but if you haven’t received any offers yet, it might be worth taking a gamble and saying you’re a University of Tokyo student.
These days, more TV shows feature University of Tokyo students, and plenty of cute female students and graduates are active in the public eye, so some men may be interested.
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I’m Taro, a male member.
If you’re in your twenties and a first-year university student, does that mean you took two gap years? You worked hard.
It’s great that you got into university, but I don’t think the university itself matters much here. If anything, the “University of Tokyo woman” label may come across as more of a novelty—and perhaps even a turnoff—than something that attracts people, though not as much as it once did. If you feel that the effort you put into preparing for the entrance exams is what’s being appreciated, why not explain that clearly in your profile or the comments section?
Alternatively, if you’re reasonably smart, I think you should come up with a strategy from a market perspective. What do men want? Compared with other women doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), what are your competitive strengths? You could consult the staff, or approach male members and people answering questions here to gather “customer feedback.” That might be another good approach.
Good luck. I’m sure you can figure this problem out.
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