I don’t know what to say when my papa asks me what kind of men I like.
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I’m in my teens, so when it comes to men I might fall for romantically, being close to my age is a given. All my ex-boyfriends have been around my age—the oldest was only about three years older than me.
The men I meet are all old enough to be my parents, and I only see them because they give me money. So when a papa asks what kind of men I like, I’m stuck because none of them are romantic prospects in the first place. Aside from age, if I were choosing a boyfriend, I’d prefer someone tall and good-looking. Unfortunately, even if the papas I meet had been younger when I met them, I still don’t think I could see them as romantic prospects. That’s why I’m really at a loss when they ask me what kind of men I like. They’re not romantic prospects to begin with...
Why would a woman ask someone twenty years younger than her what kind of men she likes?
Also, if I’m asked this, what would be the best way to answer?
I’m Aya, a female member.
You’d think that anyone doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) from their teens would be a charming, seductive girl who can instantly come up with witty replies that make men happy—but that’s a cute question.
When someone asks what your type is, it’s best to include qualities that sound like they might describe him. Honestly, this is pretty basic…!
If a tall man asks, I’ll say, “I like tall men.” But if a shorter man asks, I’d never say that. I’d mention something that applies to him, like “I like muscular men” or “I like intelligent men.”
This may sound harsh, but that kind of consideration is practically a given for women in papa-katsu. I know I’m speaking from experience, but unless you learn how to behave this way, you’ll be in real trouble once you’re no longer young—so do your best!
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I’m Fuu, a column writer.
It’s true that when you run out of things to talk about, you sometimes end up asking what type of person someone likes just to make small talk. Even at Ginza clubs, when the conversation dries up, the cast members often ask me the same thing.
If you want to deepen the relationship—or get a generous allowance—from a papa who seems likely to pay well, why not flatter him by saying something like, “Someone kind and wealthy!” based on his personality? For someone who doesn’t seem that way, or who might get clingy and become a hassle if you flatter him, it’s probably safest to name a celebrity, as the other respondents suggested.
My ongoing partners casually tell me things like, “I love Kinburi,” or “You should watch their music videos too.” I usually say that I like Gakki and Airi Suzuki.
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I’m Maezawa from the CEO’s office, and I’ll answer this one too.
I think you can just answer honestly.
“Someone tall with a handsome face.”
That should be fine.
Most people aren’t looking to become your boyfriend—they simply want to go on dates that feel like they’re dating. So even if he isn’t your type, it may be helpful to remind yourself that this is papa-katsu, and that’s just the reality of it.
Even if you say you have a boyfriend, some papas may still ask, “What kind of boyfriend?”
It depends on the person, but I don’t think you need to worry too much about it.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I think it’s because I’m still a bit of a dreamer despite being well past that age.
I’d love to hear someone say, “Someone who gives me a generous allowance!” But that would probably make things complicated, so as Mac said, I think naming a celebrity you like is the safer answer.
P.S. Women who flatter me by saying things that seem tailored to me make it feel too much like they’re entertaining a client. I feel like they’re making fun of me, and instead of feeling like dating, it starts to feel like adult entertainment, which is a turnoff.
There are people like that, too.
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