It hurts so much when someone pushes in hard the moment they enter. Please think about how it feels for the receiving partner. It’s nice for the person entering that it doesn’t hurt them. I don’t naturally get wet easily and don’t loosen up much, so it’s even more painful for me.
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People who take things slowly feel good to me, but if the first stroke hurts, it continues to hurt the whole time and becomes unbearable. All I can think is, “I just want this to be over.”
When they ask afterward, “Did it hurt?” they’re looking for reassurance that it didn’t, right? They ask it in a way that makes it hard to say it hurt.
I’m afraid they’ll cut me off if I say it hurt, so it’s difficult to be honest.
Do you all honestly say so when it hurts?
I’d like to be approached by someone kind-hearted.
I’m Ayase Nana.
When it’s time for your first kiss, shyly say, “Please be gentle,” with teary eyes. I’m sure he’ll treat you gently.
But if someone is only concerned with his own pleasure when things get intimate, cut ties with him. Your well-being matters more.
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I’m Taro, a male member.
When you’re putting it in, try saying things like, “Easy, easy,” or “Slowly, slowly.” Some girls like that.
On the other hand, apparently if you say “nurupo,” she’ll come at you with a “Gah!” Not that I’d know.
Also, if she asks, it’s probably best to answer honestly rather than sugarcoat it. Almost no guy does it intending to cause pain.
That said, softening it a little and saying something like, “It might have hurt a bit,” is probably about right.
You can think, “That hurt like hell and ruined everything, you bald jerk,” but don’t say it to his face.
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I’m Tetsu, a male member.
If penetration happens when she isn’t very wet, it can hurt the man too. But there’s no doubt it hurts the woman more. You can usually tell from how smoothly things are going whether she’s wet enough, so I always thought that if things didn’t seem quite right, you should at least ask, “Does it hurt? Are you okay?”
I think it’s fine to say so when it hurts, but there’s no doubt it will affect the relationship afterward. You’ll have to consider her personality, allowance, and compatibility as a whole, then decide whether it’s worth putting up with.
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I’m column writer Fuu.
It’s probably best to tell her, “I don’t get wet easily, so please be gentle at first.” I’ve had girls say, “It really hurts—can I put on a little lotion?”
Thank you for your valuable feedback. As Gaku-san said, I’ve been following the techniques I compiled myself on YouTube in my “Fuu’s Personal Guide to Helping Her Finish” and “Guide to Pleasing Women”:
1. Make sure she’s sufficiently lubricated before entering.
2. Go in very, very slowly.
3. Once inside, stay still for a minute to let her get used to it.
4. Start stroking slowly and gently.
That first stroke really is important, isn’t it?
Rather than asking, “Did that hurt?”, I ask partway through, “Are you okay?” Fuu likes it from behind and is well-endowed, so I also ask whether it’s okay to get a little more intense. I’m sorry, but I make sure she’s properly lubricated and prepared, then gradually become more vigorous toward the end. Please forgive me just that part.
I’ll keep working to improve, so I’d appreciate more valuable feedback in the future!
Please see the column below for reference:
https://universe-club.jp/column/fuu16
I Finally Helped Her Finish for the First Time
P.S.
“If you put it in gently at first, it feels really good.”
(If the man puts it in gently)
“Oh, that gentle pace feels so good.”
Wouldn’t saying something like that keep the man from losing interest and encourage him to continue gently?
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I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
It’s hard to know when to say something hurts, isn’t it?
The longer you try to endure it, the harder it becomes to speak up… And figuring out how to say it is difficult too.
I guess the only thing you can do is gently mention it as soon as you feel even a little pain…
I think it’s important to say something right away if it hurts even slightly.
If you force yourself to endure it until you can’t take it anymore, it may come across as too late, and the mood could be ruined.
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I’m Gaku, a male member.
When I was younger, I wanted to get right to it, so that’s how I went about things. I think I was heavily influenced by the limited sources of information available back then, like magazines and adult videos.
At some point, I learned that after entering, it feels better for a woman if you stay still at first and only start moving once she’s comfortable. Since then, that’s what I’ve done.
These days, unlike in the past, there are so many sources of information—online, on social media, YouTube, and so on—so I think there are also many men who know what they’re doing.
I hope you find a good papa (male supporter).
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
It hurts for men too. I haven’t experienced this at a club, but there have been women who climbed on top when they weren’t wet enough even at the entrance. When that happens, the sensitive skin on the glans gets pulled, which hurts—and both my enjoyment and my erection disappear.
I’ve heard from a partner that she makes a point of saying it hurts when a less-than-great man hurts her. I think not causing pain and being kind-hearted are two different things.
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I’ll answer as Maezawa from the president’s office.
> When he asks, “Did it hurt afterward?” he’s asking because he wants you to deny it, right?
I don’t think so.
I think he’s genuinely asking whether it hurt.
You may have seemed like you were in pain, and he’s probably concerned about whether you’re okay.
If it did hurt and you tell him honestly, he’ll probably say something like, “I’ll be more careful next time.”
You could also mention, “I have trouble getting wet,” in which case he might offer to prepare some lubricant next time.
(Though some people may not think that far ahead.)
I think it’s fine to answer honestly when he asks.
Also, if it hurts, it may be better to say something at the time, such as:
“Ow... that hurt a little just now.”
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