I’ll answer too—Maezawa from the president’s office.
I think I’ve written this before, but if you had been her type, she probably would have asked for something like 50,000 yen rather than 250,000.
Saying, “Because another man gave me that much,” may just be an excuse.
It means she wouldn’t be interested in seeing you unless she received 250,000 yen.
Maybe you did something wrong on the first date. Or, if you negotiated before meeting through messaging or something, perhaps your photo was awful.
When negotiating the allowance, I think it’s important to meet in person, spend time together on the date, and make her want to like you—in other words, act in a way that makes her think you’re a good person.
If she were someone you met elsewhere, you’d probably do that naturally. But just because you met through a dating club, if you act too abruptly, it seems only natural that she might also abruptly demand a high allowance. In that sense, you’re both responsible for how things turned out.
> What kind of woman would make you feel that paying 250,000 yen for one adult relationship (intimate) was worthwhile?
I haven’t personally heard directly from any men who pay 250,000 yen, but I’ve heard about them through other staff members, so apparently there are men who do.
A male member I met recently said he had spent 4–5 million yen on one woman during their first three months. (He was bragging, obviously. lol) Apparently, they’re still together.
He pays 150,000 yen each time, gives her a birthday present worth around 500,000 yen, and gave her another present worth about the same for Christmas. He said he was worried she might ask for a Birkin, but figured that amount was acceptable.
The woman seems pretty savvy, judging by how she understands his financial situation—or rather, his ability to pay—and asks for things accordingly.
Their dates apparently go like this every time:
Meet up → shopping → hotel → meal
He also buys her small items worth around 100,000 yen each time. (Calling something worth 100,000 yen “small”... clearly, we live in different worlds.)
They apparently argue fairly often, too, and making up afterward is pretty tough. What she asks for varies, but he said she demands things worth around 500,000–700,000 yen, so he ends up having to buy them every time.
However, lately he’s been surprised by how little other women cost. Other women are happy with an allowance of around 100,000 yen and don’t ask for presents, so they don’t cost much.
Apparently, he’s starting to waver a little over what to do about his current relationship.
Maybe they’re highly compatible, and she knows that, which is why she feels comfortable asking him for so much.
P.S. I just thought of something: Could the unit have been “K”?
If she meant 25K yen as the minimum rather than her desired amount, that would actually make sense. If she was getting 30K yen from someone else, maybe she really wanted 30K yen.
For reference, 30K yen means 30 × 1,000 = 30,000 yen.
You should probably check with her. I’m starting to think they’re both at fault here.
I’m columnist Fuu.
That’s simply how this female member thinks, so I don’t think you’ll change her mind by lecturing her. I think it’s best not to do that.
Saying, “Another papa gave me that much,” is one of the negotiation tactics some female members use. In my experience, women who demand a high allowance often say things like that. Whether it’s true or not, I can’t say.
Perhaps she finds the idea of being intimate with me physically uncomfortable, so she quoted an unrealistically high price to turn me down and gently make me give up. I’ll accept that and make an offer to someone else.
I don’t think I’ll ever pay 25,000 yen for one meeting.
I’m Kaz, a male member.
Bringing up the going rate isn’t going to change her values, so I think it’s best to politely decline.
The only woman I’d consider paying ¥250,000 for one adult relationship (intimate) would probably be a celebrity who regularly appears on terrestrial TV. I doubt I’d even enjoy myself in bed, but I’ll chalk it up as something to take with me to the grave.
