Do you ever choose a woman based on her profession?
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It’s been ◯ months since I joined, and thankfully I’ve received offers and am continuing to see some men.
Whenever we meet, they tell me I’m “cute” or “beautiful,” which makes me happy even if they’re just being polite. However, since my profession—as a flight attendant, nurse, actress, or idol—is the kind of impressive title that tends to be highly valued at the club, I sometimes wonder whether they chose me because of my profession rather than my appearance or personality. (Personally, I think I’m fairly attractive—maybe a little above average.)
I know I should be happy that they chose me for whatever reason, but sometimes I find myself thinking, “If I suddenly became unemployed, this person would probably lose interest in me right away,” and it leaves me feeling rather disillusioned.
I’m curious how much weight men place on a woman’s profession when deciding whom to choose.
I’m Aya, a female member.
I felt the same way at first, but as you spend more time together, it naturally develops into a relationship between two people, so I don’t think you need to worry.
If anything, I think the questioner will feel less like she’s only seeing you as your job if you show more of your personality. I recommend opening up and letting her see more of the personal side of you.
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I’m Fuu, a column writer.
This is purely my personal opinion, but I don’t choose someone based on their professional title.
As I’ve written in my columns, the kind of women I’m looking to date through this club are ordinary young women—those who seem innocent and refined.
To answer your question, I do like nurses. The women I’ve dated gave me a sense of dedication and kindness.
I’ve never dated idols or flight attendants. Not all of them, of course, but I get the impression that they may have a lot of pride and high expectations.
I choose women who look kind and quiet based on their photos and profiles.
There are probably other papas who like flight attendants or prefer idols, though…
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I’ll answer as Maezawa from the president’s office.
I think there are all kinds of men who are attracted to a woman’s profession. Some like:
- The poise and manners she’s developed through her work
- Someone with professional experience
- Someone with specialized knowledge
In those cases, I don’t think they’d lose interest even if she became unemployed.
On the other hand, someone who mainly wants to brag about dating a person in a certain profession might lose interest the moment she becomes unemployed—but I feel that type is probably in the minority.
Also, even if he initially makes an offer because of her profession, he may come to like her as a person after meeting her several times.
So I don’t think you should worry about it too much.
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I’m Basil, a male member.
A woman’s occupation is an important factor when making an offer. If you choose someone like a flight attendant, an employee at a major company, or a student at a highly selective university—or someone with a difficult professional qualification—there’s a higher chance she’ll come from a solid background, so the risk of ending up with a person to avoid is lower.
I imagine other men think the same way, which may be why these women receive more offers and tend to have relatively higher demands.
Personally, I think women whose jobs are related to my hobbies are worth seeking out. Conversation flows easily, and since they sometimes earn less than you might expect given the effort they’ve put in, they almost never turn me down.
I don’t mind someone being temporarily unemployed because of a career change, but I do avoid people who are essentially just part-time workers.
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I’m a male member, Paper Airplane.
A woman’s profession doesn’t matter to me at all.
That said, unless I feel strongly otherwise, I’ll probably pass on women who work in nightlife or the hostessing industry.
And while I’m at it, bust size doesn’t matter to me either.
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I see someone’s profession as part of who they are, whether they’re a man or a woman.
There are certainly professions that make women popular, but some men say they never got any attention as students and only started having a “popular phase” after becoming doctors. Those men often understand themselves well and can calmly recognize, “I’m being popular because I’m a doctor.”
There are extreme cases like Kazu, but I think most people feel that once they’ve met someone they really click with, their profession doesn’t matter.
Marika
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
The first thing I look at is a woman’s occupation. I usually skip students and part-timers and check the profiles of women with jobs that catch my interest. I’m drawn to work that requires some kind of specialized knowledge. I read their introductions and decide whether I’d like to talk with them, then finally look at their photos to see whether they’re my type looks-wise.
Since I check things in that order, I can’t say exactly how much weight I place on occupation. But if I had to put a number on it, I’d say it accounts for more than 30%.
That said, it’s not really an issue. From what the staff have told me, my approach is apparently in the minority, and most men place more weight on looks and overall vibe.
Occupation is important to me, but I wouldn’t suddenly lose interest just because someone became unemployed. However, if she quit her job because she couldn’t be bothered to work properly and decided to live off papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) for a while, I probably would lose interest.
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