What are some things you absolutely can’t tolerate in a dating partner?
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Personally, I just can’t deal with someone who has really bad breath. Once, I met someone whose breath was genuinely unbearable, so I ended the meal a little earlier than planned. (They were exactly my type looks-wise, though…)
I’m a BB7 male member.
Looking back at the offers I’ve had so far, I just can’t deal with women who:
1. Have a strong odor down there
2. Have bad breath
3. Have extreme social anxiety
4. Speak unusually loudly in public (so everyone in the restaurant can hear)
5. Are unintelligent and vulgar
6. Just lie there passively
7. Immediately shower and start getting ready to leave afterward—the professional type
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I’m Column Rider Fuu.
I agree that if you absolutely can’t stand the smell in the moment, it’s best to leave immediately.
Bonus section: Things that make me think there won’t be a second meeting after the first offer:
① When it’s a transactional relationship and she’s completely unresponsive during intimacy
→ I’d like at least a little reaction. Even just putting her arms around my waist or shoulders would be nice.
② Extremely strict intimacy restrictions, like “don’t touch anything above my neck”
→ I’d at least like to stroke her head, ears, or neck. I’m not asking for deep, sloppy kissing.
③ When she’s obviously trying to cut the date short
→ I’ll end things after four hours, just as agreed, so please don’t make it obvious that you want to rush off.
④ When there’s a lot of complaining or negative talk
→ I want us both to have a good time. I’m fine with listening if you want advice about a problem, though.
⑤ No words of appreciation, like “thank you for the meal” or “thanks”
→ Without them, she can feel cold and emotionally distant.
Even if there’s one dealbreaker, I may continue seeing her if she has qualities that outweigh it—being extremely attractive, very responsive, kind, feminine, easy to talk to, and so on.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s office here, and I’ll answer too.
As for someone with a bad personality…
I feel like that would be difficult.
Other things might be possible to improve.
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I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
I’d stepped away from the Manshu Incident and Kitsu Mangrove—aka “Tight-as-Can-Be Kitsu Mangrove”—but I’m going to do my best to overcome Kitsu Mangrove.
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I’m Tetsu, a male member.
I can’t stand stories that don’t add up, especially when they sound like excuses. There are other moments when I suddenly lose interest too, but I think the common thread is that I’m put off when I catch glimpses of carelessness or a lack of sincerity.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
Bad breath is definitely a turnoff. I also prefer men who have that sharp, well-groomed look we call “shut” in Kansai, so the opposite is really difficult for me. Especially when they’re overweight… Seeing the aging in their sagging skin is honestly hard to deal with.
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I’m Taro, a male member.
Basically, if something bothers me, I don’t keep seeing her, so there’s nothing I’d say I “can’t tolerate.”
If she has a bad personality, I’ll try steering the conversation toward topics where that doesn’t show as much. Conversely, if she doesn’t have much to talk about, I’ll come prepared with plenty of topics and take the lead. Of course, I’m only willing to make that effort because she has other good qualities.
I can’t think of any particular cases involving bad breath, but body odor—including intimate-area odor—does come up from time to time. When it does, I try to steer things so I won’t have to smell it. Strong odors like that are often described as animal-like, but there was one girl who smelled oddly like lotus root. It was intriguing, but I still didn’t like it.
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
For me, I guess it’s people who just say whatever they want without listening—people you can’t have a conversation with.
I can’t stand someone who can’t act like an adult（笑）
At the very least, you should be able to talk things through, take feedback from others, and reflect on how people see you.
Someone who’s basically a child in an adult’s body is a definite no.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I couldn’t immediately think of anything I absolutely couldn’t tolerate. If someone doesn’t clear my overall minimum standards, I wouldn’t want to date her in the first place.
If I had to name something, women with bad personalities or little common sense are a no-go for me—they just make me frustrated.
Taro’s answer reminded me of one more thing:
Oh, I can’t deal with intimate odor. I’m out immediately.
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