Every now and then, I meet an older guy who asks me questions like these, pretending to be concerned. If I told him the truth, he’d definitely lose his temper, so I usually brush it off with things like, “I’m saving even a little for my future,” or “It’s for paying back my student loans.”
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Honestly, spending time with a man more than ten years older than me is itself a painful ordeal. Why don’t they understand that spending time with a young woman comes at a high price?
If these older guys could regularly have sex with young, cute women in their everyday lives, they wouldn’t join a dating club in the first place, right? lol
If I happened to be born a little prettier than most people, what’s wrong with enjoying the benefits of that?
What kind of woman can honestly say she does papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) to indulge a little and raise her standard of living just slightly, without making people feel disgusted?
How can I become the kind of woman whose unapologetic way of living—staying true to her desires—is seen as attractive?
I’m a BB7 male member.
> What’s wrong with enjoying the benefits of being born a little prettier than other people?
If you don’t think you’re doing anything wrong, then I think it’s fine for you to keep believing that.
> Honestly, I’m doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) to enjoy some luxuries and raise my standard of living just a little. What kind of woman could say that without making people feel disgusted?
Personally, I don’t feel disgust toward women who come across as refined through their choice of words and behavior, and who seem to have a kind, considerate nature.
I’ve never actually met you, so I can’t say for sure, but I suspect I would feel disgust toward you. Your wording doesn’t give me any sense of inner beauty.
> How can I become the kind of woman people find appealing because of the confident way I live—staying true to my desires?
Being true to your desires—if that means being consumed by greed, materialism, and money—doesn’t appeal to me personally, whether it’s a man or a woman. No matter how beautifully they dress or how many designer brands they wear, their lack of refinement and ugliness usually show through in their face, attitude, and words.
That said, I’m sure there are some men and women who find the way you live attractive, so perhaps that’s perfectly fine for you.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s office here—I’ll answer too.
> How can I become a woman who is seen as attractive for living boldly and staying true to her desires?
I think women who make people say, “She’s top-notch at her work, too,” and also have a certain sex appeal can get away with almost anything.
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I’m Taro, a male member.
Just to clarify, when you say “desire,” you mean money, right? You want to earn money so you can own nicer accessories and bags than women your age. And as a means to that end, you have dinner with—or have sex with—men you don’t even like, whom you’ve attracted with your looks, and get paid. In other words, to satisfy your own desires, you enter into money-only relationships with people you look down on.
What you’re doing is similar to what top hostesses or popular AV actresses do. But I think those women probably have a little more gratitude.
In any line of work, you can’t become more than second-rate as long as you’re complaining about your customers. You have three choices: deceive them completely, deceive yourself completely, or find some kind of compromise.
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I’m Meg, a female member.
Well…
It may be fine while you’re young, but if you keep going that way as you get older, I feel sorry for you.
There’s nothing wrong with buying yourself a bag as a reward.
But don’t let yourself become consumed by greed.
If you’re going to have desire, let it be ambition.
I think what really matters is having the ability to think about what you can do for someone else—and then actually do it.
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Honestly, I’ve never been told anything like that, so it’s hard for me to say…
> What’s wrong with enjoying the benefits of being born a little prettier than other people?
I don’t find that way of thinking attractive. The rest of the message isn’t particularly appealing either.
You may be beautiful on the outside, but I feel you could become a much more wonderful person by working on your inner self as well.
I live according to my desires, so I have fun, but I also make a lot of mistakes. Still, other women envy me. I’m fairly popular with men even outside the club, so I assume they find me attractive.
If a man is so unpleasant that being around him feels like a form of torture, isn’t it impossible to act attractive in front of him?
I think you should find a different way to make money.
Marika
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
How a woman chooses to spend her allowance is entirely up to her, so I don’t think much of men who make comments like that.
Men who say such things probably want to give allowances to women in poverty, so they’re simply incompatible with you. I think it’s best not to engage with them. That way, you can be happy without being insulted, and they can be happy without making snide remarks.
That said, although it may be disappointing for you, society in general does not view earning an income through a relationship involving allowances as an attractive way of life.
It’s nearly impossible to change the way most people think, so you may have no choice but to change your way of life.
As for a lifestyle that many people would find attractive, social entrepreneurship might be one option. If you started a business that addressed social issues, I think more people would respect you for it.
Generally speaking, money and honor don’t go hand in hand. That’s why some people who have money eventually start seeking honor.
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I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
It sounds like you haven’t had the best luck with the people you’ve met…
Maybe the ordeal is showing on your face? If so, you may end up attracting even more men who make the whole experience feel like training.
I think feeling lucky about the things you have is what attracts men who also see you as lucky.
That said,
> If a guy could regularly have sex with young, cute girls, he wouldn’t join a dating club in the first place, right? lol
As long as you hold onto that mindset, won’t you only attract men who think the same way?
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I’m Aya, a female member.
The other day, I jokingly told a papa I’m close with about how I’d received quite a bit of money from someone else in the past. He burst out laughing and said, “You look so innocent, but you’ve done things way more outrageous than a hostess! That’s hilarious, lol.”
I asked him, “Doesn’t that put you off?” But he just kept laughing and said, “Not at all, lol. If anything, the guy who got tricked is the lame one, haha.” Still, if I’d said the same thing when we first met, I’m sure he would’ve been put off and cut contact right away.
Once you become a favorite, they won’t complain about the occasional thing—or rather, they’ll just smile and watch you live according to your desires. Lately, he’s even been telling me, “Spend more money!” So if you don’t want your papa to complain, I think it’s best to build a close relationship with him.
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
> How can I become a woman who’s seen as attractive for living boldly and staying true to her desires?
You’re already attractive just as you are!
Now all that’s left is to put that appeal into practice. I find people attractive when they act with confidence in themselves.
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