If a woman gets her period on a day she’s scheduled to meet a man again, when would be the most considerate time to tell him?
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For example, if her period starts the day before the date, should she let him know then via LINE, or is it okay to tell him on the day when he invites her to a private room?
I’d appreciate any advice in case this happens.
I’m Fuu, a columnist.
The considerate thing to do is contact him as soon as your period starts.
If you don’t want an adult relationship (intimate) while you’re on your period, or if your papa (a male supporter) isn’t okay with it, you should let him know as soon as you realize. If he has already booked a hotel, canceling on the day will almost certainly mean paying the cancellation fee.
That’s simply a waste. It would be better to put that money toward your next date, right?
You can’t help getting your period, so contacting him right away and deciding on a reschedule or other arrangements will be better for both of you.
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I’m Tetsu, a male member.
I’d prefer you to tell me as soon as you know. If you only mention it at the last minute, I can’t help wondering whether you’re using it as a convenient excuse to cancel.
Personally, even if you’re on your period, if you’re feeling well enough, I think we could simply switch to dinner or tea only, or change the date plan. If you tell me after the date has already started, there’s no longer much room to adjust the plan, which feels like a waste since it puts both of us at a disadvantage.
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
I think it’s best to let him know as soon as possible. Period-related issues can’t be helped. For your next date, why not suggest a schedule that avoids the time when you expect your period?
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I’d appreciate it if you could let me know when your period starts, since that would give me time to decide what to do.
If you tell me only when we meet that day, I feel disappointed that you had a way to contact me but chose not to. If that happens two or three times—even though your period started the day before—I’d start thinking you’re the kind of person who likes to catch others off guard, and I’d consider ending things.
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Maezawa from the President’s Office will answer as well.
> For example, if your period starts the day before you’re supposed to meet, should you tell him at that point via LINE or something?
Usually, I think you’d tell him then.
The man would then decide whether to reschedule or meet anyway if dinner only (no intimacy) is okay. That seems to be the most common approach.
However, if you really want the allowance and personally don’t mind meeting while on your period, you could also keep quiet until you’re in the room and then say, “Actually…”
If the man is disappointed and says, “Why didn’t you tell me beforehand?” one option might be to have him persistently encourage you by saying things like:
“It’s okay.”
“It’s fine.”
“Let’s do it.”
If he says he’s worried about getting the bedding dirty, you could say it would be fine in the bath—or something along those lines. If you respond to every concern he raises by saying it’s not a problem, he may eventually give in and say:
“Well, I guess it can’t be helped…”
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