I’m a male member in my 50s, and it’s been a year since I joined. The woman I was introduced to early on is kind and classy, and we’ve continued our intimate relationship. I’m very grateful to the club.

I’m Maezawa from the president’s office, and I’ll answer as well. > How can I control my impatience before getting into bed? It’s your own issue, so I’m not sure there’s any special method. You could simply think, “We’ll start after taking a shower.” In fact, if you can’t wait even though you want to, I find myself wondering whether that’s really okay. > I’m the type who wants to get in with her and even wash her thoroughly, including her bottom. If you’re saying you want to wash her bottom, that might be difficult. But if you simply say you’d like to take a bath together, I think most women would be okay with it. Has that been difficult for you so far? If it’s only this particular woman, then I think it’s fine to respect her feelings. There’s no point doing something she dislikes. You could fill the bathtub, say, “Let’s take a bath together,” and wait for it to fill while just having a normal conversation.

I’m a columnist who writes under the name Flag Maker. Isn’t it just a matter of deciding when to ring the opening bell? In my case, the match starts once we’ve both showered and are lying on the bed. Until that bell rings, I usually don’t touch her body at all. I don’t get horny or impatient either. The match hasn’t started yet, after all. lol As for advice, even in pro wrestling, the buildup before match day is important—things like, “I’m going to take you down, no matter what!” Incidentally, “asshole” is slang for “a nasty person,” so in American wrestling they might use it in a trash-talking way, saying something like, “I’m gonna shove my big boot right up your fucking asshole!” I’m starting to lose track of what I’m trying to say. lol Basically, if you tease or declare something along the lines of, “I’m going to lick your asshole clean starting right now!” maybe she’ll get scared and wash it for you.

I’m a male club member, Paper Airplane. A long time ago, there was a woman who had toilet paper stuck down there. I couldn’t bring myself to say, “You have toilet paper stuck there.” Would you tell her? > How do you hold back your excitement before getting into bed? Almost no women from the club will proceed without taking a shower, so in a way, that’s quite rare. It means the relationship has a very good vibe and the mood is really building, so there’s no need to hold back. As a man, I’d actually be very happy about it, and I’d consider it a special relationship, so I think you should just continue as you are—even if you happen to get a stomachache. That said, the woman may still want you to distinguish between when she has showered and when she hasn’t, so I think oral should probably only be on the table after she’s taken a shower. If a woman goes to shower by herself, I think you just have to respect that. She’s probably washing herself thoroughly in the meantime. Some women prefer to shower alone, while others are okay with showering together at the end. There are even a few who become comfortable enough over time to shower together from the start.

I’m Kazu, a male member. If you put yourself in a woman’s shoes, you’d probably dislike a man who hasn’t showered—and feel embarrassed if you hadn’t showered yourself. So there’s no need to “hold yourself back”; once you understand that, you can naturally say, “Why don’t you go take a shower first?” I’m sorry, but I honestly can’t understand even a little of that “impatience” if you can’t wait for her to shower. If she knows her bottom might be licked too, I think most women will wash themselves beforehand.