Good evening. I’m a woman in her early 30s and a Type B member.
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There’s a gentleman I’ve met about three times, roughly once a month.
I really enjoy the time we spend together and would like to see him a little more often, but I’m worried that if I say I want to see him, he’ll think I just want more money. So I can’t bring myself to say it honestly…
Also, since we only meet about once a month, I sometimes wonder if he isn’t that interested in me either, which makes it even harder to be honest about how I feel.
The truth is, I’d like to see him once a week! Haha.
If he were my boyfriend, I could say that…
(I don’t want him to take it the wrong way and feel uncomfortable, and I’m also afraid that if he brushes me off by saying he’d rather keep things at once a month, I’ll be heartbroken, almost like experiencing a small breakup. Haha.)
I know everyone’s interpretation differs depending on the person and the relationship, so I’d just like to hear some opinions for reference:
Would male members honestly be happy if a woman told them she wanted to see them more often?
Or would it make them uncomfortable, as if she were asking them for more money?
I’d also appreciate answers from anyone who deliberately keeps meetings to a minimum as a risk-management measure to avoid getting caught cheating, or for similar reasons.
Maezawa from the president’s office here.
Thank you for your question.
> If a female member said something like that, would male members honestly be happy to hear it?
I think they would be happy.
However, they may not be able to take it at face value, so they might wonder whether you’re asking for more money—or think, “Well, she is saying she wants to see me.”
So I think it’s perfectly fine to say something like:
“I’d like to see you once a week rather than once a month.”
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I’m a male member, Papercraft.
It makes me happy when either women or men tell me they want to meet.
You’d be happy to hear that too, wouldn’t you?
Even when both of you are saying, “What should we do? Either way works for me,” simply saying “I want to see you” can be very effective in moving things forward smoothly.
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I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member.
“How often should we meet each month?” That’s a difficult one, isn’t it?
I remember looking through this anonymous Q&A box, columns, staff blogs, and so on when I was starting an arrangement and wondering what frequency would be best.
How often a man meets with one woman depends on his dating situation, available funds, time spent on work, the level of closeness he wants with the women he sees, and so on. But in this case, I think it would be fine to ask her directly.
For me, meeting just once a month creates a certain distance between me and the woman I’m seeing. Taking into account the amount of support she needs, as well as my work schedule and sustainable budget, we currently meet twice a month. Regardless of COVID, the monthly amount stays the same whether we have an adult relationship (intimate) or not.
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Good evening, I’m Kazu, a male member.
Of course it feels good. I tell myself not to get carried away and that she probably just wants the allowance, but I’m still happy about it.
A man might even say, “Are you a little short on cash?” to hide his embarrassment, but please just take it as his way of covering up his shyness.
If she brushes you off by saying she only wants to meet once a month, I think it’s best to assume that it’s due to her schedule or finances—or perhaps, given her age, once a month is all she needs.
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