Kida, the club’s representative, will answer this question.
If the person asking is a male member (or male user), I feel the message is:
“Hey, Kida—if you don’t do something about this, doesn’t your club stop being the women-first club you’re always talking about? Huh?”
So I’m writing this with some anger, but honestly, I feel:
“I’m truly sorry.”
What I usually tell our staff is:
Female members aren’t your friends. They’re our product. But they’re also players with their own lives and emotions—and each one is an important influencer.
That’s why we prohibit staff from using terms like “two-for-one interviews,” “standard women,” “tea-and-rice only,” or “rejected women” internally.
I can’t overlook staff who conduct careless interviews or say inappropriate things. I come down on them hard.
I’ll even get furious over something as seemingly minor as choosing the sofa where a female member will sit.
Because if that sofa makes her look unimpressive, I think, “What are we supposed to do then?!”
That’s why I’m sure our staff nationwide put everything they have into every interview. After each interview, a feedback survey is sent to the employee LINE group.
So both the staff and I genuinely feel sorry for women who don’t receive any offers.
Everyone has many different sides, and it all comes down to matching and timing. I believe that by changing the angle of her profile and selecting the right partner, we can help her secure at least one offer.
If we accept someone, it’s the interviewing staff’s responsibility to make sure she receives at least one offer.
Once, while explaining how serious this was to the staff, I took three ¥10,000 bills out of my wallet and threw them in the trash.
I wanted to show that if the acquisition cost is ¥30,000, then conducting a careless interview is the same as throwing ¥30,000 away—but the message didn’t get through at the time.
At the same time, what I want to say to the women is:
“I’m sorry. But that’s the kind of world this is. You have to win. And if papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is, in a sense, about skillfully communicating with older men, then every interaction you have with your boss at work is also a form of papa-katsu—even if you don’t receive any offers.”
So, in short:
“Hmm… I’m really sorry about this(´-ω-`)”
That’s how I feel.
