How can I gracefully turn down an adult relationship (intimate)?

I’m Paper Airplane, a male member who thinks B-type arrangements are truly wonderful. So I’m happy to wait patiently—even 50 dates or more. I feel that one of the best things about the B type is that it doesn’t immediately become all about an adult relationship (allowance). With B-type arrangements, some people move forward on the very first day, some on the second or third date, some after 50 dates, and some continue almost indefinitely. That variety is also part of the depth and fun of the B type. To the man you’re seeing, you could say something in your own words, such as: “I’d like to be with one person for a long time, so I’d prefer to wait until we’ve gotten to know each other better.” “Please wait until then.” “I’ll be the one to bring it up, so please wait until then.” “Maybe after we’ve gone on about 100 dates.” I think it’s a good idea to explain it that way.

I’m Flagmaker, a columnist. Even when I’m seeing a Type B woman, I usually bring up an adult relationship (intimate) on the second or third date, because I consider it a matter of “courtesy and good manners.” After all, the amount of allowance I can offer is different. I’ll bring it up once, listen to what she thinks, and then try to accommodate her as much as I can.

Ayase Nana ♡ First, what type of arrangement are you talking about? The answer depends on that. If you’re a B-type arrangement and expect him to wait two or three meetings, how long are you planning to keep him waiting? This isn’t some innocent elementary-school romance. If you’re not mentally prepared for that, why not quit? Don’t play the victim.

Maezawa from the executive office here. If you choose Relationship Type B, you’re generally expected to make a decision by the second or third meeting. You may say you want to get to know someone better first, but many people instinctively know the moment they meet whether they could have an adult relationship (intimate) with that person. That’s why the types are set up this way: people who can follow their instincts that same day choose C or D, while those who need to take some time to confirm whether their initial judgment was right choose B. Some women still aren’t confident in their judgment by the second meeting. So even if a man says, “Isn’t this relationship-type fraud?” I tell them: “Please continue seeing her over meals until the third meeting. Women can need that much time to decide.” (The woman won’t receive a negative review for this.) However, when a woman still hasn’t reached a decision after three meals, it’s impossible to tell whether she’s intentionally trying to keep things dinner only (no intimacy) or is genuinely undecided. If she simply says she’s still unsure, she could continue having dinner only for five or even ten meetings. That’s why the general understanding is that you should decide by the third meal. If you can’t, you’re not a Type B woman, so please choose Relationship Type A instead. If you’re listed as Type B but are saying things like that, it inconveniences the men involved, so please change to Type A immediately. > “He’s inviting me too soon, and I’m having trouble with that.” No. You’re taking too long to decide. How many meetings would be enough, anyway? If you mean you want to date for several years before deciding, then I think you’re misunderstanding Relationship Type B.

I’m Kazu, a male member. Are you a Type B? If you feel he’s moving too quickly, I think it’s fine to tell him directly. Also, if you mention that in your profile comments for women, you may be less likely to be invited to meet a second or third time. If you still don’t feel you’re getting closer after meeting five times, I think you’d be better off switching to Type A.