Is papa-katsu different from compensated dating?

Thank you for your question. Hirakawa from Field Sales here with the answer. I believe the term “enjo kōsai” evolved over time into papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). In other words, Pikachu evolved into Raichu. Perhaps unmarried, divorced, or single Pikachu evolve into married Raichu. That probably made no sense—my apologies.

I’m Flag Maker, a columnist. I’m working hard while being considerate of both my family and my job, so if married people are going to have fun on the sly, cut us some slack, haha. In the movie *The Blood of Wolves*, Koji Yakusho says, “I’m the police, so I can do whatever I want.” Honestly, I find myself thinking, “I’m a gentleman who follows the rules and good manners, so I can do whatever I want.” It does sound a little self-contradictory, though. That said, musically speaking, when I let loose, I stay within the boundaries of the established scale. I never stray from it and produce a dissonant note. In the end, married people have all kinds of restrictions, so let us have our fun within the scale, haha.

I’m Aya, a female member. Papa-katsu with a married man is adultery. In my case, I tell myself that receiving money from my papa makes up for the guilt. His wife would probably call that a sophistry, but I mean it as an excuse: I’m only his mistress, and I have no intention of breaking up his family. I thought, “What a terrible person I am,” as I wrote that, but I suppose I have no choice—I’ve chosen to live in the shadows.

Maezawa from the CEO’s office will answer this one too. > I feel guilty about papa-katsu with married men because I feel like I’m doing something wrong… > I think it would be okay if they were unmarried or divorced and single, but what do you think? Under current laws, I think it’s only natural to feel guilty about papa-katsu with a married person if it involves an adult relationship (intimate). It is considered an unlawful act, after all, so that’s only natural for someone living in a nation governed by the rule of law. However, after looking into it, it seems that: In 1880, a proposal to abolish concubinage was debated in the Chamber of Elders, but it did not pass. In 1882, the Penal Code was finally revised, and concubines became unofficial. Then, in 1898, the Civil Code was revised, legally denying the existence of concubines altogether. Apparently, during those debates, some people opposed abolition by saying: “Because the system of concubinage existed, the imperial system has continued uninterrupted to this day. Abolishing it would ultimately lead to denying the imperial system itself.” Papa-katsu and concubinage may be somewhat different, but if we consider them similar, then it was also a culture that supported the imperial system. When you compare the long history of the imperial system with the history of current laws, it seems possible that this falls into a category where you don’t necessarily have to feel guilty just yet. People say, “Even an unjust law is still a law,” so even if the law is wrong, following it is the duty of someone who belongs to a nation governed by the rule of law. But for people who aren’t Christian, I imagine the reaction would be more like, “Why?”

I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member. > I feel guilty about doing papa-katsu with married men because it feels like I’m doing something wrong… It may indeed be considered wrong by society’s standards. That said, it’s also true that both people need and seek each other out. I think something more fundamental and profound than social convention—perhaps our desires or instincts—is at work here. “Necessary evil.” That’s a pretty clever way to put it.

Ayase Nana ♡ If someone you like happens to be married, wouldn’t you still want them? You’re not always going to conveniently meet only single or divorced people. If you feel guilty about it, it’s probably best to walk away.

I’m in Seattle. I think it’s probably the same there, though. Being married is fine as long as you don’t get caught. The rule of thumb is to keep it completely hidden.