Which would you choose: a girl whose looks aren’t your type but who has an amazing personality, or a girl with amazing looks but a not-so-great personality?
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Which one is more likely to last longer?
If there were a girl who was perfect in both looks and personality, what aspects could you compromise on when dating her?
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I’m Maezawa from the President’s Office, and I’ll answer this as well.
> Her looks aren’t my type, though.
That’s where you’re mistaken.
I don’t think many people want to spend time with someone they’re not attracted to.
It would make more sense if you said: a woman who isn’t conventionally beautiful or perfect, but whose looks still fall within your personal range of preference.
In that case, I think it comes down to whether you place more importance on looks or personality.
At Universe, most people prioritize looks. That’s because if you’re wealthy, women will approach you as long as you’re not too demanding—probably（笑）. You can find an ordinary woman without paying Universe a setting fee.
I think people come to Universe because they want to meet women they wouldn’t be able to meet anywhere else.
And if it’s based on looks alone, things will probably end after just one meeting. That’s usually when personality first starts to matter.
That said, as men become more experienced, I think they may place greater importance on personality than looks.
They may come to realize that it’s actually less common to meet someone with a genuinely good personality.
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I’m Akai from Universe Club, and I’ll answer this as well.
When it comes to a relationship lasting a long time, I think personality is probably the most important factor.
That said, as you mentioned in your question, if there’s any aspect of her that doesn’t feel like a good fit, it may be difficult to maintain a long-term relationship.
At that point, it would simply become a matter of compromise.
To be honest, I don’t think there’s any woman who is perfect in both appearance and personality.
Both are subjective and depend on each man’s preferences. Even if you think a woman might be perfect, you may notice something that bothers you when you meet her—that could become the point you have to compromise on.
If you still feel that it’s not a problem, however, the relationship may develop into one that has the potential to last.
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I’m Saito, a columnist♪
I wouldn’t want either of those options.
That’s why both male and female members keep looking for great people and meeting all kinds of others, right?
Some people believe female members don’t get to choose for themselves, but basically, if they’re attractive, they’ll receive offers♪
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I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
To start with, why are men assumed to be the ones doing the choosing? I see myself as the one being chosen, so I suppose our fundamental perspectives are different.
In everything, I prioritize the certainty of improving myself over the uncertainty of expecting something from the other person.
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I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
Since this is a club, neither men nor women should have to settle.
You want someone who’s an amazing match in looks, personality, and chemistry—someone you wouldn’t have to compromise on at all, someone who’s ideal in every way. And the other person needs to feel the same about you, whether you’re a man or a woman.
Realistically, maybe one in every 50 to 100 offers…
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
It reminded me of that elementary-school joke: “Which would you rather have—curry that tastes like poop, or poop that tastes like curry?”
Seriously, though, personality matters more than looks.
In other words, if I had to choose between a girl who’s fairly attractive but has an amazing personality and a girl with an average personality but incredible looks, I’d choose the former.
A girl who isn’t my type looks-wise but has a great personality, or a girl with amazing looks but a mediocre personality—neither relationship would last.
In dating, besides looks and personality, intimacy is also a factor. I don’t think a relationship can continue unless the other person is at least satisfactory in all three areas: looks, personality, and intimacy. It’s also important that our schedules are easy to coordinate.
In the end, I’ve only continued seeing one out of every 20 women I’ve made an offer to.
Now that I think about it, I’m spending around ¥1.5–2 million in setting fees to find each one. That’s about the same as what you’d pay a recruiter when looking for an employee（笑）
It really is a well-designed system.
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