Dinner → bed
That’s pretty much the only pattern, and it’s getting boring.
If we don’t mix things up once in a while, I lose motivation and get tired of it.
A friend of mine who does papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) goes shopping and to Disneyland, and it looks like so much fun… I’m kind of jealous.
Hotel → bed
Please tell me what kinds of dates you go on besides this.
Maezawa from the CEO’s office here.
Thanks for your question.
> My friends who are doing papa-katsu seem to be having fun shopping and going to Disneyland, and I can’t help but feel a little jealous…
If you just tell him that, he’ll probably get the hint and ask things like, “Want to go to Disneyland sometime?” or “Is there anything you want?”
He might be hesitant about shopping because it could seem like you’re asking him to buy things, so I think it’s better to simply show that you enjoy browsing and say something like, “I’m thinking of buying this someday,” without directly asking him to buy it.
If he finds that side of you cute, he may even buy it for you. People who directly ask to have something bought for them usually don’t get it.
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I’m Taro, a male member.
You should go ahead and suggest it if that’s what you want. Quite a few women are perfectly happy with dinner followed by some time in bed in exchange for an allowance, and the men may just be holding back too.
I generally don’t bring it up myself either. If the woman suggests it, I’m open to it.
I also got a kick out of how your question ended with “hotel → bed.” I couldn’t help thinking, “What is this, the COVID era?” Thanks for the laugh.
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I’m Fuu, a columnist.
Wow! I’m jealous that you’re in a position to go out together.
Why not tell your papa (a male supporter) what you’d like?
What I’m curious about is whether your papa is young. Is he single, or is he married? And doesn’t the person asking the question worry about what people around them might think?
In my case, the thought of unpopular, unattractive old Fuu strolling through a brightly lit downtown area with a woman in her 20s… Just imagining it makes me terrified of everyone’s eyes.
At Disneyland, would we look like a parent and child? (笑) I suppose pretending to be parent and child could work as camouflage.
In my case, my papa-katsu partner also seems to prefer dinner followed by an allowance at a hotel.
Since she’s married, the furthest we could go would probably be a secret overnight trip. As for walking around together, we’d be limited to the nighttime streets, blending into the darkness.
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Marika, thank you for choosing my answer. I’m Kazu, a male member.
Is this what you’re referring to?
https://universe-club.jp/help/questions/view/5908
https://universe-club.jp/help/questions/view/5910
In my case, shopping dates usually come up naturally in conversation, or I’ll buy lingerie I like for a woman who enjoys lingerie. To get me to take her shopping, it’s important to know how to make a convincing case for why she wants something without making me uncomfortable, as well as to show good behavior on a regular basis.
As for frequency, it depends on the woman. Isn’t it only natural for the frequency of bonuses to differ between a woman who genuinely goes out of her way for you and expresses her appreciation, and one who doesn’t?
Rather than specifically asking for a shopping date or a trip to Tokyo Disney Resort, why not say that you feel a little lonely because you always just have dinner and then go to bed?
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I’m Hikōki, a male member.
First, are you satisfied with your papa-katsu activities in terms of your allowance and the number of papas you have?
If your papa-katsu needs are already being met, try saying, “I’d really like to go on a proper date sometime.”
Then suggest places you’d like to go and the kind of date you’d enjoy, and ask him to take you.
Right now, you could go strawberry picking, visit flower fields, see the plum or cherry blossoms, or check out tourist attractions around the country. Shopping centers, new spots—even interchanges are pretty stylish these days—classic theme parks, lakes or beaches, driving ranges, batting cages, karaoke, strawberry buffets, hot springs, open-air baths…
That said, girls who want to enjoy lots of things besides dinner followed by a hotel are probably only one in several dozen, or maybe one in a hundred.
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“Buy me this! Take me to TDR!”
You really do sound like a papa (a male supporter).
Taking care of your girl must be exhausting.
Pap(a)s who enjoy shopping dates will invite you without being asked, but if they’re not that type, wouldn’t they be put off if you suggested going shopping?
Someone asked a little while ago where people go on dates, so Kazu will probably post the link to that question.
Marika
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Kazu, that’s the one. Thank you—I appreciate it too.
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