There are all kinds of people out there, so don’t trust anyone blindly.
Either take your bag with you when you go to the shower, or don’t bring your ID when doing papa-katsu.
Please protect yourself and take responsibility for your own safety.
Men who are members of a club probably wouldn’t go as far as taking your bag. There’s little benefit in stealing a woman’s money on the spot.
They’d be expelled from the club, meaning:
→ They couldn’t continue their activities, and their membership fee would be wasted.
They couldn’t simply get away, either:
→ The club has their identification on file.
In my experience, someone did take 5,000 yen from my wallet once. I realized I’d been careless, reflected on it, and have been more careful ever since.
Is this just bait…?
First of all, I can’t really imagine a woman leaving her bag behind when going to the restroom during a meal with someone she’s meeting for the first time. Was the bag too large, perhaps? Do you mean a suitcase for traveling?
That would make sense, but even then, I would think she’d keep her ID in a smaller bag that she takes with her to the restroom. Honestly, I’ve seen men go to the restroom with only their phones, but I’ve rarely seen women do that, so that part is puzzling.
> What should I do?
I don’t think you need to do anything, but what exactly are you trying to accomplish in the first place?
Do you want to sue the other person? Get money from them? Make them confess?
Your objective isn’t clear to begin with.
If you really want to know for certain, buy a fingerprint collection kit. You should be able to collect fingerprints from the ID first.
If your theory is correct, you’ll find fingerprints that aren’t yours. Then, on your next date, give them a canned coffee or something while you’re indoors. (It doesn’t have to be coffee; anything will do.)
Secretly take the empty can home and collect the fingerprints from that as well. That should tell you whether the person touched your ID.
But even if you find out, what are you planning to do about it?
If being involved with this person seems more beneficial, then continue seeing them. If not, just stop meeting them.
It’s hard to imagine someone becoming a stalker after meeting only once, but even if they didn’t look at your ID, they could follow you and find out where you live. In that case, either way, you should consult the police.
