I write in the club’s survey whenever the first date lasts four hours or more. When I do, the men contact me to ask whether they should address it with her directly. I turn them down every time, but if that’s the case, would it be better not to mention it at all? Also, if the date lasts more than four hours, should I simply leave the survey blank and let it go?

As I mentioned before, asking whether it’s okay to confirm this with the other person is simply a consideration to prevent the relationship between the two from deteriorating afterward. So it would be better to include it in the survey.

If it lasted four hours or more, you should mention it. You should probably select “Yes” when asked whether you can caution the person directly. For something that long, I’d give them a rating of 1.

You’re the kind of person who writes questions without considering the reader. It’s hard to understand the situation you’re asking about. I’m not entirely sure what you want to know, but I believe the point is that dates arranged through the club are generally expected to last around two hours, and since things may progress afterward, women are asked to keep a total of about four hours open. In other words, the idea is to avoid situations where, during a club-arranged date, a woman says, “I have plans, so I only have an hour today,” or, “I’m open to an adult relationship, but I only have two hours today, so I’ll have to leave after that.” There’s nothing wrong with asking in advance whether it would be okay to spend more than four hours together. As for what the staff think of a woman who writes something in her questionnaire that isn’t against the rules at all, that depends on the individual staff member and the circumstances.