Wasn’t that also mentioned in Maezawa’s answer?
As long as there’s no last-minute cancellation for the first meeting, I think things are fine as they are.
If you managed to settle things after two meetings with a Type B woman who was trying to earn through dinner-only dates, that’s probably a good outcome, isn’t it?
It would be fair to give her a bad review if she made plans for the next time and then canceled at the last minute. But going silent is pretty common here.
Also, whether a woman is willing to have an adult relationship isn’t determined solely by how sincerely the papa behaves. I think it simply means the woman didn’t choose you.
If you’re not happy with that, send an offer to someone like me—a Type C. But even Type C women can turn you down at the first meeting, so keep that in mind.
Please don’t give someone a bad review just because she turned you down. She’s following the rules too...
If you keep getting rejected even with Type C women, you’ll need to reflect by looking at what you might be doing wrong. Otherwise, continuing to get rejected may make this place no fun for you.
Personally, I think the ratings are meaningless and should just be removed.
There seems to be this tendency to think, “I don’t want a woman with too many stars, but I don’t want one with too few stars either,” so I feel the system isn’t really serving a purpose.
From a man’s perspective, it makes sense to want to avoid women who cancel at the last minute. If a low rating is meant to serve as an indication of that, then if ratings must exist, I think there should only be negative ratings.
Instead of stars, I think skull icons would work better: no skulls means she’s a good woman; one skull makes you wonder if she canceled at the last minute; and five skulls means other men probably won’t make offers, so someone willing to take a risk might think, “I could have her all to myself—I’ll make an offer.” That kind of rating system seems more useful to me.
Anyway, getting to the main point: the rating is supposed to reflect whether she handled the first date properly. So if you rate her based on dates afterward, there’s a good chance that any woman you stopped seeing will simply be labeled a bad woman. Rating someone six months or a year later seems completely beside the point.
Many women leave the service as soon as they find a good man, so they might not even be around six months later. And if there’s a six-month delay before a rating is posted, you have to wonder: who is that rating really for?
(A place for men who feel bitter to vent their resentment?)
> I thought I had treated her sincerely, and I can’t think of anything I did wrong.
That’s a very common thing for men who can’t maintain relationships with women to say.
When you ask the woman why, she often turns out to have had all kinds of complaints about the man. But the man himself will say things like, “She seemed happy,” or “She said she wanted to see me again.” The problem is assuming those were her true feelings. Most of the time, she was putting up with quite a lot.
Also, considering that this was a B1 woman, she decided after the second date that an adult relationship (intimate) wasn’t going to work. In that sense, she may actually have been sincere, since she didn’t drag things out over dozens of dinner-only dates.
Though it’s also possible the dates were so awful that she couldn’t even tolerate dinner only…
If you really believe that couldn’t be the case, then if I were the person handling your account, I would at least look into why the woman stopped contacting you.
Of course, even if someone pointed out what they had done wrong, many men would probably still insist, “That can’t be it.”
Come to think of it, a few years ago, when we were doing a no-holds-barred video project, we received several comments from women saying, “I didn’t like that the man didn’t wash himself—it seemed unhygienic.” The person in charge of the project told the man about it, and he replied, “But that’s not true…”
I suspect the men avoid washing because they’re worried their wives will notice the smell of the hotel soap and realize they’ve been unfaithful. But if that’s the concern, they could simply buy the same soap they use at home and use it at the hotel every time. It would be a negligible expense compared with the overall cost, and surely better than being unable to see the woman again.
They could even work up a sweat at the gym or somewhere before going home.
I’ve heard that some men give a woman they like a low rating so other guys won’t make her offers. Others give a woman who left a bad impression a high rating just to vent their frustration and drag other men into it.
It’s not like the number of stars on an Amazon customer review. Unlike a product, club women are in a situation where men compete for them.
When I see a woman with lots of stars, I assume, “She’s already been with plenty of other men,” and lose interest in making an offer. Maybe the person asking is the type who goes for women with high ratings?
So there’s no need to get that upset over the number of stars the questioner gave you.
Are you the kind of person who can’t let it go unless you give an “accurate rating”? If so, you wouldn’t be able to give a truly accurate evaluation until after the relationship with that woman has ended anyway.
I really hate women who leave a bad impression when things end. I’m trying to move on quickly and forget about them, but when they keep contacting me, I remember everything, get irritated, and it gradually turns into hatred. Ugh, I hate it.
What you consider sincere may not be what the other person considers sincere, and simply being sincere doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll be accepted as a dating partner. I think it’s naive to assume that alone will win someone over.
I also question whether personal compatibility and matching issues like that should be reflected in a review. Since reviews are written by individuals, some subjectivity is unavoidable, but because they’re meant to be referenced by third parties, I personally try not to let my own preferences or personal issues between the two people influence my evaluations as much as possible.
After all, this is a review of a club whose role is to arrange the initial dinner date, so I believe that should be the focus of the evaluation.
You can answer the survey later. If you want to meet someone several times before deciding what they’re like, I don’t think there’s any problem with waiting until then to leave feedback.
I also submit negative feedback right away if someone is clearly awful from the first meeting, but otherwise I wait until we’ve met a few times before leaving feedback.
