I’m physically fragile, and last week things got so bad that I had to call an ambulance. It was my first time ever calling one.
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On top of that, I’ve missed the last train after getting on the wrong one—I’m honestly such a mess.
Whenever something like this happens, my papa (a male supporter) is always there to help. Last week, he even came to pick me up from the hospital. When I missed the last train and ended up at a station really far away, he drove all the way to get me. “You must be sleepy, right? Go ahead and sleep,” he said, putting me in the back seat. When we got home, he gently woke me up with a smile and said, “We’re home. See you,” before leaving so smoothly.
Meanwhile, my boyfriend often ignores my LINE messages even though I know he’s seen them, or says things like, “Sorry, I had a few drinks,” and hardly ever helps me. I feel like I’m always worrying about him and doing my best for him, though.
How can I find a wonderful boyfriend like my papa?
Even outside of my allowance, my papa is always there to help me and never asks for anything in return. He’s genuinely such an amazing person, and I want to marry him.
I know that’s probably impossible, and I don’t want to burden him, so I try not to say anything too heavy.
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I had someone like that in my life, and I ended up marrying him—back before the term papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) was even used. We were 16 years apart.
At first, I didn’t have feelings for him, but then something clicked, and it developed into love. Even when I stayed over, he never pressured me for an adult relationship (intimate). I truly felt that he supported me with unconditional love, expecting nothing in return.
We eventually went our separate ways, but I absolutely believe marriage can start through papa-katsu! I’m rooting for you!
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Just as women are often associated with maternal instincts, men can have paternal or protective instincts, which some papas show toward papa-katsu women who are much younger than them.
Especially when someone like me has messed up their family life and is wandering around, if you get inside their emotional world the right way, they may start offering a kind of pseudo-family relationship rather than pseudo-romance.
But in the end, it usually doesn’t work out that well.
Anyway, putting that aside, there’s the joy of being served by someone and the joy of serving someone. The former is easy to understand but shallow. The latter is harder to notice but runs deeper. The feeling that becomes addictive—the one that makes you want to experience it again—is overwhelmingly the latter, at least in my case.
Regardless of age, you should look for someone who knows the joy of serving others and find a way into their world.
That said, the deeper pleasure comes from serving.
That’s why some women get so hooked on hosts or kept men.
Incidentally, an even deeper pleasure lies in the darkness of domestic abuse: heaven and hell. Heaven exists because there’s hell. Ordinary romance is no longer enough. It’s codependency—you can’t love each other without hurting each other.
By the way, using “being physically weak” as your selling point in papa-katsu is called “yami-ei.” Remember that term too.
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