About the woman I’m seeing: When we met three weeks ago, she was really upbeat and seemed to be having fun, and she didn’t seem eager to leave even after the adult relationship. This time, though, she seemed less enthusiastic than before and left soon afterward.
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In the time between then and this meeting, our only contact was to arrange the date, so I don’t think I did anything in particular to make her dislike me. What do you think the reason could be?
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Maybe she was in a bad mood or had a weather-related migraine? ( ˙꒳˙ )???
Still, you were expecting to have another fun time together like before… That must have been really tough. (´；ω；｀)
If you want to continue seeing her, you could offer a higher allowance or take her to a nicer restaurant. Otherwise, maybe try reaching out to someone else. (∩´﹏`∩)
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I’m giving my vote to Maezawa on the staff team.
Questioner, did you give her the allowance? Was there no unpleasant odor? What about his body odor or bad breath?
Maybe she met an incredibly attractive, wonderful man who gives her even more allowance than you do.
Or… if those mood swings were that extreme, perhaps he was dealing with bipolar disorder?
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As other respondents have mentioned, it’s possible she received an offer from someone she felt was a better match than you.
I don’t know whether it’s true or not, but some of the girls I see have told me that, since they weren’t looking for a particularly large allowance in the first place, they stopped meeting other papas and decided to focus on me.
I recently ended one of my arrangements too, so I’m thinking of making some new offers soon. In the past, I’ve generally approached girls who were already receiving a fair number of offers, so if that happens to overlap with your situation, I’m sorry.
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>Why do you think that happened?
It’s simple.
There was someone who offered her a higher allowance than you did and took her to nicer places to eat.
For example, what if, during those three weeks, she had been offered dates by a man who:
① Took her to delicious, stylish restaurants
② Was fun to talk to
③ Was kind and considerate at the hotel
④ Was handsome and gentlemanly
⑤ Gave her an allowance of 15
How many of those five points do you beat him on?
That’s what it comes down to.
Since you don’t know how you compare in the other areas, wouldn’t it make sense to at least raise the allowance a little?
Of course, if she simply didn’t feel much chemistry with you, she may not be particularly interested, but she may not dislike you either. In that case, there’s still a possibility that she’ll continue seeing you.
But realistically, the chances of not being able to meet her again are increasing, so it seems safer to raise the allowance, even if only slightly.
That said, raising the allowance also means increasing your own financial burden. You need to think carefully about whether you’d still want to continue seeing her at the higher amount.
If you feel that you could accept it if things ended between you, then it may be fine to leave things as they are.
However, once things have ended, it will be too late to try to do something about it. So you should think carefully now about how important this woman is to you.
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In dating clubs, it’s fairly common for communication to consist solely of scheduling, so I doubt that’s the reason.
If she had only recently joined, she may have received several offers and found someone else she liked better. But of course, only she knows for sure. I agree with what Kazu said, though.
That said, based on her initial response, I don’t get the impression that she disliked you.
If you really want it to be her, one option is to openly say that you’re fine with seeing multiple people, ask frankly, “How much allowance are your other papas offering?” and then offer enough to make continuing worthwhile.
If you’re not comfortable with that, she may simply fade out.
Marika
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If all you’ve been doing for three weeks is trying to arrange a date, that’s all this relationship is. You’re just meeting up—it’s not really dating at that point…
At the very least, he’s not into you.
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I think it would be best to ask her directly.
If you just want a guess, then she probably met a better papa (male supporter) than you sometime in the past three weeks.
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