I’ve never once been properly escorted, and I always end up saying yes because the money wins me over. But I can hardly get aroused, so I just endure it and wait for the time to pass.
Is it really that difficult to properly escort a woman? For the men answering, what kinds of things do you pay attention to?
I’d also like to ask the women answering: how often have you met a papa (a male supporter) who made you think, “He was really good at escorting”? Have you met several of them?
I don’t care about appearance or age, so if there are any male respondents who are good at escorting, I’d like to send them a reverse offer.
I feel a bit bad about letting things end without making another offer, so if you’d like to make a reverse offer, I’m always open to it.
—Paper Airplane
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Maezawa from the CEO’s office here.
When you say he isn’t good at escorting you, do you mean only as far as the dinner stage?
If your main complaint is that he doesn’t take you to particularly upscale restaurants, you might want to try setting your relationship type to B.
With B, the first meeting is dinner only, and the adult relationship starts from the second meeting onward, so he’ll probably choose a restaurant with the woman’s comfort in mind.
Even with type C, some men are good at choosing restaurants, so it ultimately comes down to probability—but I think you’re more likely to get a good restaurant with type B.
Also, having trouble getting wet probably has less to do with his escorting skills and more to do with what happens in the room.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
I make a reservation at a restaurant in advance.
I read the woman’s profile carefully and think beforehand about what topics we can talk about.
Once we’ve finished eating, I bring up the allowance and invite her to continue the date.
If we agree on the terms, I immediately reserve a hotel room.
For C-type arrangements, I sometimes book the room in advance and chill cake and drinks in the refrigerator. Even if plans fall through, I don’t really mind—I just stay overnight anyway, haha.
The C-type woman I met for the first time yesterday told me she had gotten her period, so we had some drinks and talked for a while in the room before saying goodbye. Including the meal, the whole date lasted about two hours.
If things become intimate, I spend quite a bit of time on foreplay. I’m not compatible with women who don’t enjoy it.
That’s basically what I keep in mind when escorting someone.
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I’m BB7.
Even if a man knows exactly how to wine and dine you, can you really get turned on by someone you don’t particularly like?
Isn’t it more about how you feel than how good or bad he is at escorting you?
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I’m a male member—basically one of the losers.
Escort skills really show a huge difference in ability, don’t they? Since I’m highly trained in escorting through my work, I thought I’d give a serious answer for once.
In business, people talk about “educating the customer,” but before that comes an important step:
“Removing their concerns.”
I think most male members stumble before they even get to the escorting stage because they haven’t learned how to do this.
Women’s concerns at a dating club are pretty predictable:
- The allowance
- Not walking around town together, to avoid being recognized as doing papa-katsu
- Contraception
- What time things will end
- Not becoming genuinely emotionally attached
- Not prying into their private life
- Cleanliness, including taking a shower
- Long-term support
- Other women he’s seeing
Those are probably the main ones.
I make a point of casually weaving these topics into the conversation.
However, I’m not good at addressing them directly, so I usually bring them up indirectly, along the lines of:
“There seem to be a lot of creepy papas who want a real romantic relationship. Have you been okay so far?”
If you carefully ease each of a woman’s concerns one by one, she has more room to relax and talk, so she’ll gradually become more talkative.
The more she talks, the more she takes off her emotional clothes, so to speak, and eventually opens up emotionally. Then, when the timing feels right, I’ll ask:
“Are you free after this?”
That usually gets a smooth yes.
*I hand over the allowance at this point.
I’ve never once been turned down for an adult relationship (intimate), but I wonder what the person who asked the question thought after reading this.
There are still plenty of other subtle techniques—reading the atmosphere at the restaurant, the direction of your body during the meal, which profile you show her more often, when to let her catch a whiff of your cologne, being considerate toward the staff, deliberately having her sit in the less favorable seat, and so on—but I’d rather not reveal my identity, so I’ll stop here.
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I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
After dinner, I’d ask, “Are you okay with what comes next?”
That’s about the only kind of escorting I can think of.
When you say “escort,” do you mean foreplay?
I’ll do my best with that!
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I’m Fuu, a column writer.
What makes someone good at escorting a date?
Let’s say you’ve already got the points Kazu mentioned down—are you expected to do even more?
The atmosphere of the restaurant,
how smoothly you get from place to place,
the atmosphere of the room,
having stylish, engaging conversation…
Is that what it means?
The fact that I’m even asking this probably means I’m failing already.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
With B, I don’t go to his room unless we’ve become quite close, so I haven’t really felt that way. But when I was new, I sometimes gave in to the pressure and went to their rooms, so thinking back, maybe about one in five.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I think what makes someone feel well escorted varies from person to person.
You’re not talking about basic gestures like opening doors, walking on the side closest to the street, standing below someone on stairs or escalators, or giving them the seat farther inside, are you?
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