I get depressed or irritated over even the smallest things, and even when I think I’m smiling, it probably shows on my face because people ask me if I’m okay. I want to change that about myself, but what should I do?
Among the people who answer here, Kazu always comes across as calm and composed, without any emotional ups and downs. Do you ever lose your composure over something?
Some people who are overly composed when they’re young end up having their emotions explode later in life, so maybe you don’t need to worry about it.
I’m the boring type who doesn’t show enough emotion in front of others.
People who are loved are the ones who express their emotions outwardly—like Maradona.
A loser of a man
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I think it’s because I’m still young. If I can stop expecting too much from other people or from things in general, and stop comparing myself to others, I think my moods will become less up-and-down.
I wouldn’t say I’m particularly calm and collected. I dislike foolish behavior, so I sometimes get irritated in an instant when I encounter someone acting stupidly. I think one of my flaws is that, in those moments, I sometimes say things that provoke the other person.
As far as I can remember, nothing so unexpected has ever happened that I’d say I completely lost my composure. So I don’t think I’ve really lost it recently.
P.S. I’m not exactly amazing in bed, either（笑）.
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I’m Shingo Lee, a columnist.
I get the impression that you’re probably fairly young. To put it simply, I think everyone is like that when they’re young and don’t have much emotional room to spare. You can gradually work on it by becoming more mindful.
Getting irritated over little things probably means you’re not being considerate enough of the other person or the situation. That doesn’t mean you should neglect yourself—it means you’re not yet able to see the balance between yourself and others.
People who pay attention not only to their own interests but also to the interests of others tend to be “scientifically happier.” Apparently, the happiest people in the world are devout Buddhists.
When you’re inconvenienced or offended, I think you’ll become less irritable once you learn to weigh your own feelings against the interests and feelings of others.
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I’m Nana Ayase ♡
Questioner, please include your age range and gender when posting a question. That way, people can give you more specific answers.
Are you a woman? Are you in your teens or perhaps your early twenties?
Do you have a job? I think being moody is probably because you haven’t experienced much of the world yet. If you’re working and acting moody, you’ll end up isolated, after all.
Try interacting with lots of different people. Before long, you’ll be able to keep smiling even when you’re angry.
This is a crossroads in your life:
☆ Choose the easy path, and you’ll end up living a miserable life.
☆ Choose the difficult path now, and you can become a wonderful person with a promising future.
So, what will you do?
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