Are there really that many older guys who only talk about themselves?
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When I bring up a topic, they go on talking about themselves forever. And even when I don’t bring anything up, instead of having an actual back-and-forth conversation, don’t they try to steer everything back to themselves?
For example:
P-katsu woman: “The pollen is really bad today, and my nose is so itchy.”
Older guy A: “I have hay fever too, but I take medicine every day. The medicine is called ○○, and…”
(He then keeps rambling.)
P-katsu woman: “That baby we just saw was adorable, wasn’t it?”
Older guy B: “My son has had such a cute face since the day he was born, and I’m really glad he grew up that way. The hospital where he was born was called ○○, and…”
(He then goes on and on.)
Those are examples I just came up with, but honestly, there are far too many older men who can only have conversations like this, and it’s exhausting.
I suppose the allowance includes compensation for putting up with this ordeal, but why do they only talk about themselves??
Conversation is supposed to work through a cycle of:
Conversation + asking the other person a question → answering the question + sharing your own thoughts + asking the other person a question →
Isn’t that how it works? Or am I wrong?
I find myself wondering how little they must have been popular with women—and feeling sorry for them, thinking they’re probably treated like the emperor with no clothes at work, too...
I’m Dai, a male member.
I’m guessing you’re a student.
Once you start working, you’ll probably encounter plenty of bosses like that.
And being made to listen over and over to the same “success stories” you’ve already heard before is perfectly normal.
Think of it as a valuable lesson about the working world before you even join a company.
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I only know one woman like that, but none of my papas are like that.
I haven’t met anyone like that among the people whose relationships didn’t continue, either.
Marika
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I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
You think that’s an ordeal? That’s cute, lol.
If it leads to money or work, I’ll listen to as much as you want. Because it’s always a meaningful process that leads to results. It’s easy work.
Something with no results or payoff might be an ordeal. But even an ordeal is part of training, and the results of that training will show up somewhere else.
If it just ends with “What an ordeal. So annoying,” then it isn’t even an ordeal. It’s simply a waste of time.
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It’s Joe.
My first reaction was, “Is that really so?”
Arrangements like these are, by nature, highly individual. I feel that when you generalize from your own experiences, a lot gets lost along the way.
I consider myself talkative, but I also think I’m a good listener. Otherwise, I don’t think I’d be meeting the club girls’ boyfriends—or even their biological fathers.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
I don’t feel that strongly about it… I do think, “There probably are people like that,” but I imagine the reason is pretty much what you suggested.
Maybe it doesn’t bother me because I see listening to clients—in other words, gathering information—as a basic part of sales.
Maybe you’re not all that interested in papa (male supporters) in the first place.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
After reading the example, I noticed that the woman there only talked about herself too. She didn’t ask any questions.
Could it be that because you only talk about yourself, she has nothing to do but talk about herself as well?
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