I’m a female member.

I’m a male member, and honestly, I’m the one getting the short end of the stick. If you’re genuinely falling for each other on a monthly arrangement, there’s no need to limit how often you meet, so it’s a win-win. On the other hand, if there’s no allowance at all, there’s a risk the man may disappear. If you really must suggest something, I think it would be best to say something like: “You’ve been so good to me, and I really love being with you, so would you be willing to lower the monthly allowance a little?” Alternatively, perhaps you could offer to cover the hotel costs each time. As for me, a certain Type A girl has started showing signs of genuinely falling for me even though we’ve only been doing letter dates, so I’m getting a little cautious. I know this must be really painful for you, but try your best to hold back those genuine feelings and keep them at a semi-genuine level.