Maezawa answers.
> But is it really possible to say, “I absolutely won’t have sex!!!”?
Assuming the person asking is a woman, I have to wonder whether saying “absolutely not” from the outset is really the right approach.
I mean, I assume you’ve dated men normally before. When you went on your first date with someone, did you say, “I absolutely don’t want to have sex,” before going out with him? That’s what I find myself wondering.
Maybe you’re still a virgin and have dated men but never had any experience. Even so, declaring from the start that it will absolutely never happen seems like a rather unnatural way to approach a relationship.
Perhaps you see ordinary dating and dating-club relationships as two different things. But if you understand that distinction, it makes the situation seem even stranger to me.
If you simply mean that you’d prefer not to have an intimate relationship, I can understand that. But in that case, you could say, “I don’t need an allowance. I’d just be happy if you took me out for dinner.” Then you might come across as a genuinely sweet woman.
> What percentage of the men and women who actually go on dates end up having sex?
Dating clubs arrange the dates, so they don’t know what happens afterward once the two people begin seeing each other privately. As a result, there aren’t any statistics.
Still, based on what I’ve heard from men, I’d say that more than 70% develop into an adult relationship (intimate).
And when the man truly knows what he’s doing, I think it becomes an adult relationship 100% of the time.
> What are the dates actually like in terms of the location and how things progress?
I think it varies from person to person, but generally, the usual flow seems to be having a meal and then being invited to pursue an adult relationship (intimate).
That’s because dating clubs generally ask you to start with a meal, after which you’re free to pursue a private relationship. I don’t know what happens from the second date onward.
There may be shopping dates, visits to museums, or cases where things move forward right away.
In that respect, I think it’s much like an ordinary date.
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I think the key point is simply this: Are you really the kind of woman a man would want to take out for meals and spend a lot of money on?
If it’s dinner only, there’s nothing improper about it, so you’d probably have plenty of opportunities to meet people without using a dating club or anything similar. And without even giving gifts, if you’re willing to pay enough, you could probably have a meal with a celebrity too.
However, once things go beyond that, it could cause trouble for their agency and the many people who support them. That’s why I think many people use dating clubs, where both parties’ interests are aligned.
That said, when a relationship has continued for several years, there are times when someone might say, “I’m too busy to meet this month, but I’ll still give you your allowance.”
In my case, I go into dates with the understanding that an adult relationship (intimate) is 100% part of the arrangement. We have a meal, and if both parties agree, we go to a hotel… But this is just one individual’s experience, so I learn from the other answers as well.
I think it depends on your own appeal.
