Isn’t asking to film sex incredibly disrespectful? At worst, it could ruin a woman’s life through revenge porn, yet you can say something like that so casually.
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When I’m asked, I say, “If you want a video of sex that badly, I’ll film your face for you. You can get off to watching yourself,” and they all hate the idea. I couldn’t care less about what a man looks like during sex either, so I don’t want one.
Filming sex really makes me feel like they’re treating women like idiots. If it were a married couple doing it and enjoying the video together, I could perhaps understand—but asking for that in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), where the relationship is purely financial, makes me wonder if they mistake us for people who can be bought, like sex workers or AV actresses.
First of all, you’re already paying an allowance to have sex with her, so why are you trying to profit from a video you can enjoy forever? If you want to masturbate to that woman, pay her every single time.
Filming sex is such a ridiculous idea—something only an idiot would come up with. If the next papa (a male supporter) asks me, I’m planning to give him a piece of my mind.
It really is that offensive, right?
This is Joe.
Basically, I agree with everything you said, and I have no counterargument. And I understand that even the suggestion itself would make you uncomfortable. That’s a perfectly normal reaction, too.
That said, Joe has one small request: couldn’t you at least forgive someone for making the suggestion?!
Apparently this is quite an exception, but I also make intimate videos with my wife. The day before yesterday was our wedding anniversary, so we did it for the first time in ages. It was a rather special moment, reminding us both that we’ve gotten older.
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I’m Shingo Lee, a columnist.
If both people consent, there’s nothing wrong with leaving bite marks or bruises, or even choking someone until they pass out. That’s how this world works—on trust.
I think people who secretly record intimate videos should be sentenced to death. But anyone who gets furious over a consensual intimate recording should spend the rest of their life alone, never having sex, until they die of old age.
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I’ve never taken even a single photo.
That said, there are several women who willingly send me private photos.
I can’t help but find it adorable. They’re all incredibly beautiful.
By the way, I get photographed quite often myself. I’d like to say no, but I can’t, so I completely understand why women dislike it.
—A loser in love
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I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
Lately, I’ve been checking off things I’ve never done before, one by one. The other day, I tried having sex standing up in front of a mirror.
At first, I was completely caught up in the moment, but one of the main points of doing it in front of a mirror is being able to see the woman’s face reflected in it, right?
So I looked in the mirror—but before I could even see her face, I caught sight of how creepy I looked and went, “Whoa! I’m disgusting!” Then I hid behind her.
But I still wanted to see her face, so I peeked out from behind her back. Still, my own creepiness won out. Having sex standing up in front of a mirror is difficult.
Filming myself will probably be difficult too once I try it. That’s my next challenge!
Of course, I’ll be selective about who I ask. Not you.
If I don’t try filming myself now, I’ll regret it for the rest of my life. If someone agrees to do it with me, I’ll be grateful forever.
And hey, don’t disrespect adult video actresses, lol.
It’s an incredibly demanding job in its own way. Seriously, staying in the adult film industry for more than three years is really tough.
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I'm Kazu, a male member.
Some people may think, “Isn’t it incredibly rude to say you want an adult relationship just because you’re offering an allowance? Do you think I’m the kind of person who can be bought?” Everyone thinks and feels differently.
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