I ended up hitting on a girl who was waiting in line at a convenience store late at night.
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She was wearing a beautifully nuanced mauve-pink coat, so I impulsively told her, “That color looks amazing on you.”
It was only a week ago, but we’ve already met several times, been intimate, and I’ve fallen into the illusion that I’ve known her for years.
I’d become completely accustomed to inviting actresses and models to luxury hotel suites, but this love I happened to stumble upon feels unbelievably fresh. It’s even made me wonder if I should use this as an opportunity to retire from compensated dating.
I’m also dreaming of marrying her.
When saying goodbye to my monthly arrangement partner(s), should I give them some kind of thank-you gift?
I want things to end gracefully, with at least some sense of gratitude remaining on both sides.
I’d appreciate any advice on the proper etiquette in a situation like this.
I’m Shingo Lee, a columnist.
I’m someone who experiences this sort of thing on a regular basis.
In the pickup-artist scene, it’s known as “Only Syndrome.”
It’s a “condition” where, after feeling that every girl you’ve met so far was missing two or three things, you suddenly meet someone who fits you perfectly—and start thinking you don’t need anyone but her.
What makes it a problem is that it gradually takes away your “masculinity.” If you stay in this state while seeing your favorite girl—your “Only”—your manly appeal keeps declining because of the condition, until she loses interest in you and the relationship falls apart.
If you meet a girl through pickup, give it at least three months before making any decisions. In particular, don’t cut off the other women you’re seeing.
The girl you picked up is attracted to your “masculine actions” and “manly attitude.” But that positive impression fades to zero after three months. Even so, if you commit exclusively to your Only, your masculinity will decline at an accelerating rate.
Stay connected with other women to minimize how much you commit to your Only. There’s no need to cut off the others until three months have passed.
By the way, I wrote an article about the time I became intensely committed to my Only, so feel free to check it out:
[Shingo’s Always × Intimacy ⑧: Devastated After Losing the Love of My Life—a Beautiful 18-Year-Old Who Looked Like E〇a Ikeda]
https://universe-club.jp/column/breakheart
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