I’m Seattle—I eat at family restaurants every day, and I just had McDonald’s too.
For the first meeting, I’ll make a restaurant reservation.
Why not judge based on the cash you actually take home? Though I suppose there’s a good chance it’ll be a low amount.
I’m Ayase Nana ♡
If a papa invites me to an adult relationship on a first date at a family restaurant, I’ll turn him down.
Even if he knows a nice, upscale place for entertaining clients, this kind of person will invite you somewhere they’d take their kids.
I wonder if he came over from a dating app?
I’m Kazu, a male member.
A family restaurant for the first meeting would be a real turn-off, unless you already know each other well.
A woman’s social status doesn’t influence my choice of restaurant.
Unless you’re already seeing someone and have gotten comfortable with each other, I don’t think a family restaurant is appropriate for a first meeting.
You get ready and head out feeling nervous and excited, wondering what will happen and where things might go from here.
Even for a first meeting, if there are reasons such as the pandemic, I think you’d still feel put off unless there were some kindness behind it—like, “It’s good here, would you like to eat together?”—or some indication that they had made an effort to prepare something, as Mack-san suggested.
In this case, I don’t think it’s strange at all to be disappointed by the family restaurant.
Akari
I’m Dai, a male member.
The restaurants I go to don’t really change depending on the woman’s membership class.
I don’t go to family restaurants, but I also don’t go to overpriced places that seem to charge customers mainly for the location.
I want to eat what I personally find delicious, rather than focusing on the price, haha.
People who choose family restaurants probably aren’t that particular about the taste.
I’m a male member—a bit of a loser.
For an adult relationship, I give everyone an allowance of ¥100,000 or more.
I see the family-restaurant questions are still going.
I’m a rare papa (a male supporter)—one in a thousand—who often goes to family restaurants with the women I date. I’m lower than the lowest rung of society, below cockroaches and sewer rats, so I love family restaurants. They’re where I feel most comfortable.
Family restaurants, family restaurants, family restaurants ♡
By the way, I only wear suits from Konaka or Aoyama, but people always tell me, “You’re always wearing such expensive-looking suits.”
If a taxi ride costs ¥1,700, I’m the kind of miserly bastard who says, “That’s totally walkable♡” and runs there to save the taxi fare.
With family restaurants, class doesn’t matter, and neither does whether I particularly like someone or not.
Among my monthly arrangements, the woman I care about most has hardly ever eaten anywhere with me besides family restaurants or convenience-store meals. We always stay at APA Hotels, too.
Even so, I give her ¥100,000 plus a little extra every month. We meet about twice a month, and I value her enormously.
I would never give a large allowance to a woman who feels she isn’t being valued unless she’s taken to a high-end restaurant.
Women can’t do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) forever. If the papa side ruins their sense of money, they may end up unable to grasp the happiness that’s within their reach.
A woman who can only feel happy at high-end restaurants already has something broken inside.
That said, in general, a papa who takes someone to a family restaurant on their first date probably offers a low allowance.
If I were doing mama-katsu and a mama like Yubaba from *Spirited Away* took me to a family restaurant for our first date, I’d probably think, “Huh?”
Still, I wouldn’t let my guard down and assume it was some kind of test. She might be a big mama with an extremely high allowance, so I’d keep up appearances until I found out how much she was offering.
So, to answer the question: I don’t discriminate between restaurants based on a woman’s class, but I go to family restaurants all the time for entirely different reasons.
