My papa wants to see me once a week. I’m worried he’ll get tired of me. Will he lose interest if we meet weekly?

I’m Dai, a male member. You should probably assume that a man may eventually get tired of having sex with the same woman. He may recover after some time, but until then, I think factors other than sex have a major influence. In other words, the key point is whether you’d be happy to go on dates with this man that don’t involve an adult relationship (intimate). For example, if you meet once a week, you could go on non-intimate dates while you’re on your period. However, the allowance would presumably be different from that for an adult relationship, so if that doesn’t work for you, I think it would be better to stop.

I’m Kazu, a male member. There’s a woman I’ve been seeing about once a week for over a year, and we have sex, but I haven’t gotten bored of her.

I’m Taro, a male member. If the relationship stays superficial, he’ll eventually get bored. Men can feel that way too and may start thinking, “Maybe we should keep it to about once a month.” Since he’s the one saying he wants to see you once a week, he must be hoping that the relationship can become something deeper and more engaging. This is your chance to make an impression. I don’t know what your relationship is like now, but once you start seeing each other frequently, it’s natural for your true self to come out. Talk about your family, your upbringing, and things you normally don’t discuss. It’s even better if you listen to him as well as talking about yourself—which I assume you normally do anyway. Trying different places and restaurants and adding some variety to your usual routine is also important. But it’s fine to stay within the range of things you’re genuinely interested in. There’s no need to force anything. The same goes for intimacy. After about three months, you’ll probably understand each other better and develop a few familiar patterns. Once you reach the point where you’re both comfortable with each other, the relationship will likely last a long time. Newness is important, but people eventually return to what feels familiar. People talk about techniques and all that, but if you’ve been together for a long time, you’ll feel good just from touching each other, regardless of changes in your bodies. In the end, I think Pavlov’s dog wins. Do your best, woof.

I’m Kamihikōki, a male member. If he wants to see you once a week, he’s clearly very interested in you. I think he’s more likely to become even more interested than to get tired of you. The more often you see each other, the more attached he may become, so keep meeting him and make him fall for you. If you see each other two or three times a week, you’ll develop a very close relationship, and he may find it hard to pull away. You may both end up feeling that way. In that case, an adult relationship once a week or twice a month should be enough.

I’m a losing male member. You’ll get bored if it’s adult relationships every time—100 percent. It’s better to make about half your dates non-intimate. Don’t make it too easy for them. If you can settle for just transportation expenses as the allowance for non-intimate dates, you might be able to make it in this world. I recently switched from specializing in Type B to specializing in Type A, and one of the main reasons was: “Sex gets boring.” If you want a papa (a male supporter) to stay with you long-term, you need to make him wait. I used to see my former favorite three times a month, but things ended because the sex with him had become careless. If you can’t make your papa happy and treat him well every time, be careful—the risk of getting dropped increases with weekly arrangements. Mr. M, who has sex with the same girl more than ten times a month on a regular basis, is a sex beast, so his opinion probably isn’t useful anyway, haha.

I’m Aya, a female member. Isn’t it nice that he wants to see you once a week? At this point, I think it means he finds you very attractive. If you turn him down, the mere fact that you said no could leave a negative impression. Rather than starting off on a negative note, wouldn’t it be better to show him how appealing it is to see you and build up some positive feelings? So if it were me, I’d accept the weekly dates and focus on making the papa even more into me, even if there’s a risk he might eventually get bored. There will probably be weeks when you can’t meet anyway, so don’t worry too much—why not take the plunge?