From what I’ve seen here, do most women dislike being called by their first name without an honorific?
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I call girls I’m close to by their first names without an honorific as a sign of affection, and they never seemed to mind, so I honestly didn’t think much of it.
Of course, I don’t do that with girls I only see once or twice a month.
I’m Fuu, a column writer.
From the first meeting through about the third to fifth time we meet, [details omitted].
After that, I’ll see how things go.
I’m Fuu—feel free to call me Fuu.
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Among the people I’ve been seeing, I only called the ones considerably older than me—over 70—by their first names without any honorifics.
Everyone else was called with “-chan,” though every now and then I’d call someone by their first name too.
That’s basically how it was.
Akari
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I have a thing for being called by my name without an honorific by women, but I call every woman “○○-chan.”
I would never call a woman by her name alone myself. It feels too condescending.
I sometimes do it with female subordinates at work who are really capable, though.
They’d actually dislike it if I added “-chan.”
—Loser Guy
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Maezawa from the President’s Office here.
I don’t often see feedback saying, “I didn’t like being called by my name without an honorific,” so I can’t say whether everyone dislikes it. (Though I suppose that simply means there aren’t many people who do it in the first place.)
For example, if someone called you by your name without an honorific when you were meeting for the first time, I think more than 99% of people would find it unpleasant.
In other words, it depends on how close the two people are.
Even if you feel close to someone, if they don’t feel the same way, they may dislike being addressed so casually.
Whether you mean it affectionately or not doesn’t matter to the other person.
Try not to make it all about yourself. Pay close attention to the other person and be considerate of their feelings.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
I think calling someone by their first name without an honorific can sometimes be mistaken for acting like their boyfriend. To avoid that, once we’ve gotten a little closer, I tell them, “You can call me ○○.”
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I think it depends on the person and the relationship, so it’s probably best to take it as, “I guess some people are like that.”
Personally, I usually address women as “〜-san” as a sign of familiarity. Calling someone by their name without an honorific feels arrogant to me.
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I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
For example, imagine you’re a young, handsome host. If a fairly well-off, somewhat older female client called you by your first name without any honorific and acted like she owned you, wouldn’t that make you feel a little awkward? Wouldn’t you think, “Um, I’m not yours. I’m only entertaining you because it’s my job”?
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