I’m living in my papa’s apartment, but I can’t help worrying that my standard of living has dropped compared with the environment I grew up in.
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I know that I was raised in a wealthy family thanks to my parents’ hard work, and that I couldn’t maintain that kind of lifestyle on my own.
But I still can’t help comparing the two, and sometimes it suddenly becomes painful.
It’s not that I dislike my papa.
He’s kind and gives me presents, but I even find myself comparing them, thinking that the things my parents gave me were more valuable. I’m awful, aren’t I?
The room feels small, and the sofa is too hard… That’s the sort of thing I’m thinking.
I’ve stopped papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) for now because I’m living here, but I find myself wondering whether I should start again so I can meet someone who would give me a lifestyle better than the one I had at my parents’ home.
Personality-wise, though, my current papa and I get along well.
It probably wouldn’t be a good idea to be honest with him about this, would it…?
How can I live without feeling so unhappy and learn to accept my life as it is now?
Maezawa from the CEO’s Office here.
If your current papa is a good person, I think you should start by being grateful and staying there.
That said, keep your eyes and ears open so that if you find an even better papa, you’ll be able to move on to him.
You could also consider seeing multiple papas.
The thing is, with papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), it’s normal for things to eventually come to an end. So in the long run, I think it would be better to look for a good marriage partner.
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First, try earning your own money and managing on your own.
Maybe it’ll straighten you out.
You’ll start to feel genuine gratitude and admiration for all your parents went through—and for everything your papa has built up.
You may also come to see your parasitic lifestyle more clearly.
Then even a firm sofa will probably feel soft and comfortable to you.
For now, you need to put in some effort.
If you’re still dissatisfied, then with your current circumstances, your only option is to be with more men.
Good luck.
Akari
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I’m Dai, a male member.
To put it bluntly, you’re simply relying on that papa (a male supporter) to provide your living environment for you.
The environment you grew up in was also created for you by your parents.
If you’re unhappy with your situation, try earning your own salary, renting an apartment, and building a life for yourself.
As things stand, it seems that once you reach a certain age and your looks begin to fade, you may be left with nothing.
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I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member.
Rather than dwelling on the environment you were born and raised in, I think you should first accept your current situation honestly.
If you want to achieve the kind of life you grew up around, all you can do is work toward it. Your papa (a male supporter) may also have worked hard because he wanted to create an even better environment than the one he had.
Sometimes, when I look at the world, I really feel that DNA does play a role.
We don’t usually think about it, but DNA is passed down. After that, it comes down to your own will.
For now, it may be fine to accept your papa’s help while gradually learning to stand on your own.
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This is Joe.
I don’t think you necessarily need to accept it. If anything, I feel that doing so might mean losing the values—or perhaps the good qualities—you have. Though that’s just how I feel.
Being honest with your papa (a male supporter) would be difficult, but it might be worth a try.
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I’m Flagmaker, a column writer.
Rather than posting something like this here, shouldn’t you find someone you can talk to openly and trust, and share everything with them? That’s how I feel.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
I think you should keep your current arrangement while getting back into papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). From your wording, I can tell that doing nothing feels really difficult for you.
That said, with papa-katsu at a normal pace, you only meet a papa (a male supporter) who truly clicks with your personality and is genuinely fun to be around about once a year—or at least that’s been my experience…
So don’t forget to appreciate your current papa, and be extremely careful not to get caught. If he finds out, you could lose everything.
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