I was approached by someone in his late 20s, but I was a little surprised because I’ve always imagined papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) as something you do with someone much older.
I don’t really understand why someone would pay to meet a woman close to his own age.
What does “papa-katsu” mean to you all?
Lately, when I read questions from younger people, I’ve noticed that many are dating men who are just a little older than them and receiving an allowance, rather than having met through Universe.
So I suppose it’s only natural that more people in their twenties are registering with Universe as well.
I wonder if more men and women are looking for a convenient, transactional relationship.
The definition is a relationship involving an allowance, right?
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I’m a male member—and a bit of a loser.
My papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) debut was when I met someone in real life, we hit it off, became intimate, and I gave her some money as we parted.
She told me several times, “I can’t accept this,” but I insisted because I really wanted to show my appreciation.
I suppose this is my ideal—my definition of papa-katsu:
“Please let me be your papa.”
Something like that.
That said, I did feel it was inefficient.
I’ve never had too much trouble meeting people in real life, but joining Universe has made it possible to accomplish all kinds of things in a short amount of time, which is how I got to where I am now.
Even today, my feelings are still something like, “Please let me be your papa. I want to help enrich your life.”
Since specializing in A-type relationships, I feel like I’ve managed to sort out my thoughts a lot better.
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I’m Kamihikoki, a male member.
I think papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) has its own advantages.
A papa (a male supporter) has his good points, while men you meet through dating for love do too. It’s not simply a matter of which is better.
I do feel that the ease and lack of emotional burden that comes with papa-katsu, where money is involved, is a major advantage.
As for the definition, as Kazu-san wrote, it was originally about looking for a good papa. But it has gradually come to refer to dating relationships.
Also, asking “How much is the allowance?” may be especially common in club dating, where things have become rather standardized. But when people are introduced through money instead of a relationship beginning solely between the two of them, it does feel quite close to the adult entertainment industry.
I think papa-katsu was originally meant to be a freer, more friendly kind of relationship—meeting naturally and developing that sort of connection.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I had my first compensated relationship when I was around thirty. Back then, women would constantly ask me, “Why would you keep a mistress when you’re young and single?” I’m guessing that’s basically the same question you’re asking.
I remember getting so tired of hearing it.
My reasons haven’t changed. Since it’s a relationship where I give her an allowance, I can ask her to let me have my way with her when I’m feeling worked up, ask her to get on all fours and stick her butt out, or ask her to go down on me, without having to worry about her expecting marriage.
That’s how I used to answer.
No one has asked me that in the past few years, so I suppose that means I’ve become an old man.
Of course, that’s just how I see it, so I’m sure that particular man may have a different way of thinking.
P.S. I forgot to answer what I think “papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)” means.
Originally, I believe papa-katsu meant “looking for a papa (a male supporter and compensated dating partner).” Over time, though, I think it has come to mean “being in a compensated relationship.”
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