My parents are fairly good-looking, especially my dad—he has a prominent nose and is very handsome. Because of that, I end up comparing my papa’s looks to his. If he’s less attractive than my dad, I think he’s ugly, so the arrangement never lasts.
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I’m starting to wonder if my preference for handsome men is putting me at a disadvantage.
It’s because when I find someone unattractive, I don’t even try to look at their personality.
I think I have more of a stereotypically male way of thinking.
But there are actually quite a few handsome, well-groomed men who are also attractive and faithful.
So I find myself thinking that unattractive men have no value.
I’m doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), but I only want handsome older men. Even when the allowance is good, I end things and can’t make the arrangement last. Please give me some advice.
So you use “ugly” for men too, huh?
I was taken aback by how casually you call people ugly, regardless of their gender.
Whether he’s unattractive or a handsome older man, if you want money, why not treat him with kindness?
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I’m Dai, a male member.
I only just learned that “ugly” is also used to describe men.
So a handsome, faithful, but poor man isn’t good enough for you.
But you also don’t want to give yourself to an ugly man just because he has money…
That’s simply being selfish.
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I’m Fuu, a column writer.
Even if you choose an attractive older man, if you have the looks to do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), I think you should date one who won’t stress you out.
Leave the rich, creepy old guys to other papa-katsu women.
Women who aren’t as particular about looks as you are might actually enjoy seeing them.
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I’m Joe. I think that’s perfectly fine.
My daughter’s husband is incredibly handsome. My wife is always spoiling him, saying he looks like the male lead in a Taiwanese drama. Is that meant as a compliment? I’ve never watched one, so I can’t really picture it.
My daughter is thrilled whenever her friends tell her, “Your husband looks like a prince.” Seeing her happy makes me happy too, of course. But I’d long wondered why he had chosen my daughter, who, while lovely, isn’t exactly a breathtaking beauty. So the other day, I finally worked up the courage to ask her.
“Because I’m Papa’s daughter! Obviously, it’s my freaky side.”
I love my daughter even more now.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
My real-life papa is fairly tall, slim, and handsome, so I do prefer tall, well-groomed men. But I’ve never been particularly picky about looks—my friends have even joked since high school that I’m “into unconventional-looking guys,” lol. As long as a man is tall and not overweight, his face doesn’t really matter to me. I’m not a breathtaking beauty myself, so I don’t feel like I’m in a position to be picky.
At any rate, I don’t think you need to force yourself into a relationship with someone you’re not attracted to. There’s nothing wrong with ending things with your papa because of his looks. Stress is the worst, so I think it’s perfectly fine to keep things as they are.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
Is wanting a partner to be attractive just the way men think? I’ve always felt that younger women are more likely to comment on the appearance of the people they’re dating.
Personally, I don’t see anything wrong with choosing someone based on their looks.
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