When the age gap is huge, I still feel like I’m being looked down on somehow.
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Do you feel that you can control or deceive women who are 20 years younger than you—or possibly even twice that age difference?
Do you harbor thoughts like, “She’s just a kid, so I can lie to her easily and make her do whatever I want”?
Do you really feel that way?
You don’t have to lie—please answer honestly.
What specifically can you do to control your papa (a male supporter)?
I’m Aya, a female member.
I’ve told a papa, “How dare you look down on me, you fucking old man.” Sometimes I pretend to have a mental breakdown to get care and attention from him, making him anxious that he “can’t let this girl fall apart.” Repeatedly being cruel to him and then suddenly turning sweet might also let you control him. Of course, I can’t recommend this kind of approach…
Anyway, whatever the method, if you can get him to the point where he feels he can’t stand being without you, you may get the sense that you’re in control of your papa.
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I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member.
Even with a large age gap, I’m not simply looking down on her or taking advantage of her. If anything, it goes both ways—we each get a little and give a little（笑）
I’ve never once thought about lying to her or controlling her. What I try to keep in mind is making sure the relationship is enjoyable and beneficial for both of us.
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I’m Joe, a male member.
If you ask whether I look down on them or not, I’d have to say I do. Though this isn’t exactly the kind of place where I can shout that out in public.
Younger women generally have less life experience, so I sometimes offer advice. From their perspective, that may come across as arrogant—or as if I’m looking down on them. But every woman I meet here is dazzling to me, Joe speaking. Even their inexperienced sides. That’s because so many of them are trying to carve out their own paths in life.
At the same time, according to my own research, quite a few women aren’t aware of their own strengths. I feel that helping them recognize those strengths is one of an old guy’s responsibilities, too.
I’ve probably wanted to control someone at some point, but I’ve never actually managed to. As for being controlled, “several times” would be an understatement—it’s always.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I sometimes think my partners are a little naïve, but I’ve never wanted to control or deceive them. I don’t think I’m particularly good at lying or capable of controlling someone, and I don’t have that kind of mindset. Besides, there’s nothing to gain from controlling someone.
Lying is a hassle because you have to keep your story consistent, so I try not to do it.
If you want to control your papa (a male supporter), I think you should willingly do things other women wouldn’t, so that he can’t stop thinking about you and doesn’t have room in his mind for anyone else.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
I’ve never treated any woman disrespectfully, so I’ve never felt that way.
Even if her attitude is poor, I don’t get angry on the spot. I simply decide not to continue seeing her after we part ways…
If you feel that your papa (male supporter) looks down on you, it may be because, deep down, you want to dominate the other person.
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