I forgot that I had plans to meet my papa. I only realized it when he sent me the meeting place the day before we were supposed to meet.
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We usually make plans at the last minute, but our schedules happened not to line up, so we arranged to meet further in advance. Unfortunately, I forgot to put it on my calendar and ended up making other plans.
I apologized over the phone, but of course my papa is pretty angry. He also replied on LINE, “I was really looking forward to seeing you again after so long, and I can’t believe you did this.”
We’ve been seeing each other for about a year, and this is the first time I’ve made him angry. I feel even worse because the restaurant he reserved this time was one I had previously mentioned wanting to try.
Would sending another apology message make things worse? I’d also like to do something to make it up to him—what do you think I should do?
Thank you.
The later-arranged plans were clearly more important to you, which suggests that, to you, your date with your papa (a male supporter) was only that important. So I think your papa’s anger is understandable.
Cancel your other plans and prioritize your date with him. Even if he says it’s fine afterward, you should still apologize.
If you’re not willing to go that far, you should accept that ending things may be unavoidable.
—Matsurika
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I’m Nana Ayase ♡
Please apologize to your papa properly. Forgetting a promise—what kind of person does that make you?
Has your papa not blocked you yet? Cancel your other plans and go see him. It would be such a waste to throw away this precious connection.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
If you’ve been seeing each other for a year and have built a reasonably close relationship, I don’t think one mistake would be enough to ruin things. So if your papa still won’t forgive you despite your sincerely apologizing repeatedly by LINE and phone, then the problem lies with him.
Think about it carefully. What exactly is he so furious about when a girl 20 or 30 years younger than him is desperately apologizing to him? Most adults eventually realize, “I’m being ridiculous too.” Depending on whether your papa is capable of recognizing how absurd it is to become so emotionally invested in a papa-katsu girl, I think you should adjust how you deal with him afterward. Of course, I mean after you’ve sincerely apologized—not simply brushed it off.
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I’m Osaka, a male member.
That’s basically like telling her where she stands in your priorities, so I imagine it could affect the relationship going forward.
It’s a double blow: I’m hurt that she forgot, and I’m also hurt that she made her priorities so clear.
Well, if that’s just the reality of the situation, I guess it can’t be helped, lol.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
If you’ve been seeing each other for a year, I feel she’ll forgive you if you apologize sincerely…
I think all you can do is explain what the plans are and get her to understand.
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You should cancel the plans you made afterward and meet your papa no matter what.
Meeting him is your apology. You already had plans with him first.
You probably want to say, “It’s something I absolutely can’t get out of,” but if you do, be prepared for your papa to cut you off.
If you still can’t meet him, call and apologize, saying, “Please don’t give me an allowance for our next date. I’m truly sorry, and I want to sincerely make it up to you.”
—Loser Guy
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
Generally, I think it’s better to sincerely apologize rather than pretend nothing happened. If you cancel your other plans and prioritize your plans with your papa (a male supporter), he’ll probably calm down fairly quickly.
But since you’re asking here, I assume you don’t really want to cancel the plans you already made.
I think a verbal apology should be enough, but if that still doesn’t settle things, ask him what would make him feel better.
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