When I’m doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), I always try to dress in a classy, cute, TV-announcer kind of style—something I wouldn’t feel embarrassed to wear even with our age gap. But do men actually care what a girl is wearing when they’re already walking around with a much younger woman?
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I actually like pink frilly clothes—the kind a person to avoid might wear—and I’ve been buying outfits specifically for papa-katsu. So if it’s not something I need to worry about, I’m thinking of stopping. What do you think?
I’m just starting to look for a new papa (a male supporter), so I’d especially like to know what girls should wear for their first meeting!
I’m Fuu, a column writer.
LOL.
I once met a girl who came to our first meeting in a cute, announcer-style one-piece dress, but showed up for the second meeting dressed like Nausicaä from *Nausicaä of the Valley of the Wind*.
She really stood out at the restaurant (lol).
There wasn’t a third meeting.
I recommend dressing to match the atmosphere of the restaurants your papa takes you to.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
If a woman showed up wearing a pink frilly outfit, I’d pretend not to mind and go through with the date, but there’s a good chance I wouldn’t continue seeing her afterward.
Once, an underground idol showed up dressed in something like a tracksuit, and I didn’t continue seeing her after that.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
I think it’s best to keep your outfit fairly conservative at first; otherwise, you could lose out if you happen to meet a man who rejects women based on what they wear. It’s better to show your personality gradually as you get to know each other.
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Have an outfit ready for the first date, then from the second date onward, show him photos of outfits and ask, “Would something like this be okay?” If he’s fine with them, I don’t see a problem.
Marika
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I’m SHingo Lee (Shingori), a columnist.
When you enjoy fashion from your own perspective, it’s called being stylish. When you enjoy it with other people’s opinions in mind, it’s called knowing how to wear it well.
If you want to stay true to yourself regardless of what others think, then you should dress however you like. Personally, I think people will assume it’s papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) no matter what you wear, so there’s no need to worry about it.
That said, be careful with outfits that look too young—you’re more likely to be stopped and questioned by the police around the love hotel district, lol.
Shingori likes 18- and 19-year-olds, so I’m pretty used to being questioned by the police…
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I’m a male member and basically a loser.
I really don’t care either way. I don’t even walk around town in the first place.
I’ll dress properly, but I don’t want the woman to waste money, so everyday clothes are perfectly fine.
If I had to ask for one thing, though, please wear sexy underwear m(_ _)m
That said, it’s hilarious how divided the Nagoya crowd is on this（笑）
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
If a woman showed up for our first date wearing a pink frilly outfit, I’d probably just have dinner with her and call it a night.
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