I assume that when a man makes me an offer, a staff member will contact me. But there’s simply too little information to go on, so unless the dates don’t work for me, I have no real reason to turn down an offer.
At the same time, there’s nothing that makes me think, “I’d really like to meet this person!” so sometimes I end up feeling reluctant to go. Meeting someone for the first time when I know absolutely nothing about them is very scary.
Isn’t there something that can be done?
For example, it would give me something to go on if the man’s own self-written profile or message could be shared exactly as he wrote it. Or, although it may be difficult, being able to see a photo of him would also help me make a decision.
Rather than vague comments from the staff like, “He seems like a kind person,” I’d appreciate having something—anything—that gives even the slightest glimpse into what he’s really like.
Aizawa from the Tokyo office here.
It’s understandable that many people feel uneasy about this.
Male members can create profiles on the site, and when they make an offer, we also send that profile to the woman if they have one.
Some men include photos of themselves, while others describe their preferred relationship type and the kind of woman they’re looking for. Some, on the other hand, write nothing more than a single sentence.
That said, it still seems to be only a minority, and very few include photos.
Seeing this question might make some men think, “I’d better not write anything, since it could increase the chances of being turned down…” But having more information should help reduce mismatches, even if only a little, so we hope you’ll make good use of the feature.
If you’re really worried, try asking the staff whether there have been any problems. If someone has caused a lot of trouble, we may be able to tell you.
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Maezawa answers:
I completely understand what you mean.
We’ve had women in similar situations before, so we’ve sometimes asked the man whether he was willing to share a photo, or sent him a message written by the woman and had her decide whether to accept the offer after seeing his response.
One of Universe’s strengths is that staff have considerable discretion in handling arrangements like this.
It depends on the staff member, but at branches outside Tokyo, we should be able to accommodate requests like these. Even in Tokyo, there’s a possibility we may be able to help.
The reason I’ve singled out Tokyo is that it has been extremely busy up to now. We’ve barely had enough capacity just to accept offers and arrange dates in the usual way, leaving little room for anything outside the standard process.
However, we’re currently introducing some internal improvements, so we may be able to do it after all.
That’s where things stand at the moment.
I can’t say in advance what the response will be, but please feel free to consult with our staff.
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