My papa is 70 and said he wants to treat me like his girlfriend, so the allowance for our adult relationship is 10,000 yen. He says he doesn’t like paying money because it feels like prostitution.
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He has paid 100,000 yen for clothes and 500,000 yen for cosmetic surgery, but how can I ask him to increase the allowance for our adult relationship? What’s a good way to put it?
I’m Maezawa from the president’s office, and I’ll answer as well.
If he’s willing to spend that much money on you, I don’t think he’s being stingy—it’s probably just his policy.
In that case, wouldn’t it be better to have him buy you something you want every time you meet? It feels like you might receive more that way than through an allowance.
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I’m Fuu, a column writer.
How did you get your papa to cover clothes and cosmetic surgery?
Did he pay by bank transfer or card?
How much do you receive each month
for esthetics,
and how much for clothes?
If you don’t like cash, why not ask him to pay by bank transfer?
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I’m Basil, a male member.
Since he gave you 60, be patient with 1 for a while. If you ask for something now and then, he’ll probably give you another lump sum sometime.
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I’m Flagmaker, a column writer.
For men, giving goods or gifts instead of an allowance is pretty similar to investing in themselves, isn’t it? Since they’re at a certain age, it’s difficult to change that mindset. Let’s just give up on that idea completely.
Think of it as getting as much as you can from the people willing to give you things. Take whatever you can get, wherever you can get it.
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I remember her former top dinner-only papa was like that, and she once asked him, “How can I get him to increase my cash allowance?”
At her request, I even went to spy on one of her dates with him.
He’d casually cover ¥1.5 million for cosmetic surgery, and I think her dinner allowance was ¥30,000 per meeting. He even rented a place for her, but there was no adult relationship (intimacy).
He was constantly giving her gifts—always luxury brands. He was unquestionably a genuinely wealthy papa (a male supporter), yet he hardly ever gave her cash.
“I’m a cash papa, so you’ll just have to put up with it,” he would tell her.
It’s rare for a dinner-only papa to buy someone that much, after all.
Those were the days...
By the way, I basically always give cash. Gifts are difficult, and I feel better giving cash.
—Loser Man
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
As he said himself, he probably just doesn’t like giving the allowance in cash. No matter how carefully you put it, asking for cash will likely go against his preferences and upset him.
If you absolutely need cash, I think your only option is to accept that the relationship may end and tell him, “I need the allowance in cash, so I can’t continue seeing someone who doesn’t pay in cash.”
If you give a reason why you need the money—such as paying off a loan, tuition, or wanting to save—it might slightly reduce the chances of things ending. However, if you mention debt or tuition, he might say, “I’ll pay it for you instead, so bring me the bill.” So you’ll need to have a solid explanation for why you specifically need cash.
Still, “adult relationship (intimate) 1” sounds like something I’ve heard somewhere before...
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I’m Aya, a female member.
That papa may just be old-school, but he seems like the type who prefers to support you with services or things rather than a cash allowance. Personally, I think you’re better off giving up on trying to change that.
If you push too hard to increase the allowance and end up upsetting him, you could ultimately lose out on future help with things like cosmetic procedures, beauty treatments, or clothes.
If you absolutely have to, I suppose you could ask him to buy something with a high resale value and then sell it for cash… but if he finds out, it’s over, so I can’t recommend it.
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