I have a first meeting coming up and wanted to ask about how to bring up the allowance. When would be a good time to ask about it? I’d appreciate any tips on how to phrase it.

I’m Ayase Nana ♡ If you’re a man, bring it up toward the end of the meal… If you’re a woman, wait until the man mentions it. Some guys will try to head to a hotel without discussing anything, so before leaving the restaurant, ask him, “Where are we going?” If he says, “The hotel, obviously?” tell him, “Don’t just make plans on your own—I’m telling you!”

I’m Official Make-otoko-dism, a male member. I bring up the allowance within the first 10 minutes of the first date. More than half the time, it’s practically at the same time as saying hello. If I don’t mention the allowance, the woman ends up unable to focus on the conversation because she’s wondering about it. I say, “I’m sorry to bring this up so suddenly, but I imagine it may be difficult for you to raise the subject, so would it be all right if we discussed the allowance first?” Every woman thanks me for it. Weren’t we taught to state the conclusion first? That’s exactly what I’m doing. *Even for a letter date, I bring up and discuss the allowance early on.* If you’re a C- or D-type woman and a man invites you to an adult relationship (intimate) but still hasn’t mentioned the allowance, ask him before you get up to leave. If he gets irritated by that, there’s a high chance he’s a person to avoid, so it’s probably best to decline the adult relationship (intimate) that day. If you’re a B-type woman, and you’ve discussed an adult date over LINE or another messaging app and even set a date, but he still hasn’t mentioned the allowance, ask him no later than two days beforehand. With two days’ notice, the man can still cancel the hotel.

I’m Kazu, a male member. Are you a man or a woman? Before moving on to the next part after dinner or drinks, I think a man should bring up the allowance when inviting her somewhere. If you’re a woman and he hasn’t mentioned the allowance by the time you’re on your way to the destination, you can simply ask, “What are your thoughts on the allowance?” Personally, I think there’s something wrong with the man if he makes the woman bring up the allowance herself.