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Nov 4, 2021 09:11
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お役に立てれば幸いです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
Maezawa from the CEO’s Office here.
> When I asked for a higher allowance, he told me the whole plan was canceled.
Does that mean he was offering the same allowance for an overnight stay as he did for a non-overnight meeting?
If so, I think it would have been better to stay vague and say something like, “I’m not quite ready for an overnight stay yet.”
It may be difficult to recover things from here, but perhaps you could try saying something like, “I’d be happy to see you again, just like last time, without staying overnight,” and see how he responds.
Either way, if he’s the one who cut things off, I think you’d be better off looking for a new papa (a male supporter).
After having H several times during overnight stays, you may start wondering, “Why am I agreeing to this for such a small allowance?” and end up getting emotionally hurt.
🏅 パパ活歴7年目突入
彼氏/既婚/他パパ/セフレOK/全力応援
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Fuu, a column writer.
I understand that the trip was canceled, but since I’d still like to see him, I think you should try saying, “I’d like to see you, so could we plan our next date?”
A～Dまで一通りオファーの経験あり、多くても月１程度でLINEはスケジュール調整のみ、スマートに無理なく長期交際するスタイルです。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m a male member named Dai.
If you already feel it would be better to end things, trying to get back together because of the money is likely to make both of you unhappy.
If he canceled not only the overnight stay but the entire arrangement, he probably sees you as someone who’s all about the money.
He’s probably already looking for his next partner.
By the way, if you’re short on money and don’t have many partners, my answer would be: never ask for an increase in your allowance.
There’s always a risk he’ll cut you off.
Next time you ask a question, please share that background as well.
Other
I’m Aya, a female member.
If you absolutely need the money, you’ll have to swallow your pride and do whatever it takes. As others have said, your only option may be to bow your head and ask to see him even without an increase in your allowance, since money is tight. If that papa (a male supporter) has already lost interest, he might block and delete you, but there’s also roughly a 50/50 chance he’ll say, “Oh, you’re okay with no extra charge? Then how about an overnight stay?”
But if you’re thinking, “I’m not willing to go that far,” I think it’s best to move on to the next one. Forcing yourself won’t do you any good.
Other
I’m Osaka, a male member.
Hmm… she may already think you’re not going to meet again. She might even be reading this.
Since you’re already considering cutting ties with her, why not move on?
🏅 手コキ評論家
入会して8年。いまだ彷徨中です
Age: 60s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Joe, a male member.
Since I was the one who advised you to be “straightforward,” I feel somewhat responsible.
I found myself thinking, “That makes sense,” when I read Mac’s and Makeinu’s answers. However, based on Joe’s modest life experience, prioritizing short-term gains rarely leads to anything good, so I recommend letting this fade out as it is.
I understand that money is your primary goal. But don’t you think it’ll be difficult to continue unless there’s at least something else that gives you a positive feeling? It depends on the person, but in general, doing this solely for the money can really take a toll on your mental health. Are you prepared for that?
In any case, I think you should simply act as you see fit. Stay strong!
🏅 プロおぢ。ほんとはプロパパと名乗りたいけど名乗るほどの実力がない名古屋の汚っさんです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m a male member who got the short end of the stick.
Around spring this year, I had an overnight-stay dispute with a woman.
In the end, she apologized, so I stayed over and continued seeing her.
1. She was the one who asked to stay overnight.
2. I normally don’t do overnight stays, but since she wanted to, I agreed.
3. She then asked, “How much would the allowance be for an overnight stay?” and requested more money.
4. It started to feel ridiculous, so I turned down the overnight stay.
5. She apologized and said, “I’m fine with the usual allowance, so please stay overnight with me.”
That’s how I ended up continuing to see her.
What really made me decide to continue was her saying in step 5 that she was struggling financially.
When I hear that someone is short on money, I can’t just cut things off. It feels like the most cowardly thing to do.
Copy and paste the following to him on LINE:
“I’m sorry. I’m having financial difficulties this month, so I’d like to stay overnight with you for the usual allowance, if that’s okay. m(｡>__<｡)m”
Send it while mentally sticking your tongue out at him (← this is extremely important).
You don’t need to show him any gratitude whatsoever. He’s an unpleasant guy, after all.
If you have another papa (a male supporter), send him that LINE while you’re enjoying yourself in a room with the other papa.
Hypothetically—just hypothetically—if you happen to have an STI, he’s such an awful guy that you probably wouldn’t be punished even for having unprotected sex with him and giving him the full package of STIs.
Good luck!
Go for it!!
Don’t lose!!!
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Kazu, a male member.
Personally, I really can’t recommend it at all, but I think it would be best to bow your head and say, “I’m sorry for asking for so much. I’m in a difficult situation.”