I’m the one who asked earlier about the 16,000-yen necklace.
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From my papa’s perspective, I think he probably found it a huge hassle but bought it anyway because he had no choice. I was planning to break things off, and he said, “I’ll buy you a birthday present, so cheer up,” then brought me that.
Does everyone really wear something that looks like a toy and is honestly embarrassing to have on?
Don’t I just look like some woman who’s ridiculously happy over such a cheap item? Comparing it to a diamond is obviously ridiculous.
If you were planning to break up, then the price of the item doesn’t matter, right?
A while ago, after I told him I wanted to break up and moved out of the apartment we’d been living in together, he sent me a Bulgari necklace as a birthday present. It was worth around ¥300,000–¥400,000, but I’ve never worn it even once. I thought, “What an idiot. Did he really think he could keep me with something like this? What a waste of money.”
But as Flag Maker-san said, you don’t say things like that to people. Maybe they keep it to themselves and vent their frustration through the Q&A box, though.
Marika
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I’m a female member, Aya.
It sounds like you probably don’t like your papa (a male supporter) very much. That’s probably why even a ¥16,000 necklace feels so irritating to you. If it were from a boyfriend your own age—or a papa you absolutely adored, assuming you had one—you’d probably be happy with it no matter how cheap it was.
To cut to the chase, if it bothers you that much, I think it’s fine to list it on Mercari. Just make absolutely sure he never finds out. (I believe Mercari lets you delete the listing data two weeks after the item sells, so I recommend deleting it immediately afterward to get rid of the evidence.)
Once your papa notices that you aren’t wearing the necklace, he might try a different approach next time—perhaps giving you something more expensive or asking what you want. You may have what it takes to train him into giving you the things you actually want, so give it a shot.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s office here, too.
> “I’ll buy you a birthday present, so cheer up,” and then he brought me that.
When he said, “I’ll buy you a birthday present, so cheer up,” you could have simply said:
“Then I’d like you to buy me this.”
If you were planning to break up with him, I think it would have been fine to say so. You should have communicated clearly with him as well.
> “It really looks like a toy, and it’s so embarrassing to wear. Would you all still wear something like that?”
If that’s how you feel, you didn’t really need to ask here in the first place. Why did you ask?
If you already have a clear opinion, you should just tell him directly instead of asking here.
It seems like you’re deliberately shifting the issue.
Are you the type who enjoys nitpicking? If you just wanted people to agree with you, you could have talked to your friends.
Oh, did you not have any friends? Even so, writing about things unrelated to your question here serves no purpose.
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You just need to be the kind of woman who makes him feel, “I feel bad for being so happy to give her an allowance.”
I also haven’t met any men who try to take advantage of me, so I’m sorry I can’t really relate to your situation.
Akari
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I’m Flagmaker, a column writer.
There’s nothing wrong with thinking that way at all. It’s just that putting it out there publicly feels a little questionable.
Just quietly sell it without saying anything, lol.
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
> Do you all really wear things that look like toys and are embarrassing to have on?
> Doesn’t it make me look like some woman who’s ridiculously happy over something this cheap?
You should accept someone’s kindness graciously.
After reading your question, I feel like you may be getting into papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) a little too soon. Maybe come back when you’ve grown up a bit more.
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Questioner, don’t worry.
Even the male respondents criticizing you harshly have probably given someone a 4°C gift with a smug look at least once, and the female respondents have surely received something cheap and thought, “Tch,” at least once too.
Nobody’s perfect.
Objectively speaking, you may come across as a rude woman, but if anyone were put in your position, they’d probably think, “Tch,” too.
I hope you meet a wonderful papa (a male supporter).
—Loser Guy
P.S. A good question was posted after this, but it got deleted. I’d written such a long reply, too—“Tch.”
Try rewriting it carefully so it won’t get deleted, and ask again!
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