Why do people here—especially the female respondents—seem so extremely sensitive to certain “words”?

I’m Hikōki, a male member. > I don’t want to get involved with someone I should avoid. You have to step on a few landmines, though—that’s what makes a good partner shine even brighter. You also need to make sure the other person doesn’t see you as someone to avoid. Overreacting to everything will only hurt you, especially in your case.

I’m Aya, a female member. Unless you tell me what specific word you’re referring to, there’s no way for me to answer. Personally, there aren’t any particular words I’m conscious of.

I’ll answer too—Maezawa from the CEO’s office. I have absolutely no idea what specific “word” you’re referring to. Was there even something like that? Maybe you’re the one who keeps asking really strange questions? This question, too, when you get right down to it, is basically attacking women, isn’t it? Finding it enjoyable to attack others makes me think there’s something rather mean-spirited about you.

To all the women answering questions here: I believe I treat the people I’m seeing with respect. I don’t normally use terms like “generous papa,” but if I feel the person asking a question will understand the situation better if I phrase it that way, I’ll use it deliberately. If you’re already worried that you’ll be criticized for using a particular term, perhaps that says something about the questioner’s mindset—maybe they naturally think like a person to avoid… That said, no matter how good someone’s actions are, I think it’s only natural for people to judge them by the words they use as well. Akari

Considering that “generous papa” is being treated as a keyword, would the following terms—which I’ve apparently been getting flak for using—also count as “keywords”? - Ace - Hierarchy - Keepers Or am I off the mark? Personally, I hate the word “mistress,” but I don’t mind when other people use it. The phrase “Let’s sell your friend,” which has apparently been causing an uproar lately, doesn’t bother me either. On the other hand, “Let’s introduce your friend” has zero marketing value. I don’t think reacting to certain words is necessarily a bad thing. That’s just human nature. And even an idiot like me realizes that I’m probably making other people uncomfortable. But if I stop using the word “ace,” I’ll no longer be the “loser guy” persona I am. I’ll be reduced to something that isn’t a loser guy, and my existence on this anonymous Q&A site will have zero value. There’d be no point in me being here. So I’ll probably continue choosing words that rub people the wrong way. I’ll leave the babyface role to someone else. I’m perfectly happy being the heel—and I like being the heel. If I were in charge of marketing for Universe Club, I might have chosen the phrase: “Let’s sell your friend” and, even while drawing everyone’s ire, secretly pumped my fist in triumph. There’s no such thing as bad publicity. Wait… am I giving a completely nonsensical answer? Was the questioner asking about something entirely different?? ■ Kazu It’s not that I talk about high allowances because I want to be the heel. I become the heel because talking about high allowances earns me massive backlash from: - Almost all male members - Women who aren’t receiving high allowances The order is actually reversed. That said, it’s true that I’ve always liked playing the heel, and I like it even more when I get other people to posture and show off. In other words, I’m a truly awful person. Though I’m sure my bad personality comes through even without me saying so. (Sweat pouring down my face) Saito-san♪ already plays the babyface when it comes to high allowances, so copying that character wouldn’t be interesting from an entertainment standpoint. I think I’m better off continuing as the hated character. P.S. And when respondents clash like this from time to time, Universe Club is the one benefiting most from it SEO-wise, right? I guess I’m just dancing in the palm of Maezawa-san’s hand. P.P.S. Ah, Kazu, I see what you mean. Linking the heel persona with high allowances isn’t what I’m aiming for. I’ll need to make a slight course correction. Thanks for the advice. As expected, you’re exceptionally sharp. ■ Mac You’re such an unpleasant person. I was trying to start using the terms “Sue” and “Pookie.” I was planning to stir things up even more, so please don’t read my mind and spoil the surprise!! Though Mac has already figured out all sorts of things about me from meeting me in person, so I’ve been completely stripped bare anyway. There’s not much I can do about it now…

Which word do you mean? I honestly have no idea and don’t realize what I said. I didn’t think it was particularly rude, so could you please tell me? Marika

I’m Kazu, a male member who’s having an iced coffee at Renoir. Could you give some examples of the words you’re referring to? Without examples, I’m worried we may be talking past each other. So I’ll answer in general terms. Language is not only a means of communication but also a tool for thinking. People who are poor communicators are less likely to make a good impression, and I believe our thoughts reveal themselves through our actions. If you consider “generous papa (well-paying supporter)” to be derogatory, you can simply think to yourself that the respondent using that term is a ridiculous person. There’s no need for everyone to share the same values. Addendum: If a heel talks about high allowances, wouldn’t that make high allowances seem like a bad thing? For what it’s worth, the term “ace” doesn’t offend me, but I do think it sounds rather silly. “Keep” makes it sound as though women are being looked down on, which I feel undermines the speaker’s credibility. One more addendum: No, I don’t think people are criticizing you simply because you talk about high allowances. From the reader’s perspective, I think the order is actually reversed. What I want to point out is this: “If a heel mentions high allowances, doesn’t that end up associating the two? Is that really what you want?” I realize this may be overstepping, but lately I’ve started to wonder whether you might actually be trying to give high allowances a negative image.