I've been seeing my papa for over a year, but I recently found out he's still making offers to other women, and it’s made me really sad.
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Is he continuing to make offers because there's something I'm not giving him...?
Are some people simply unable to stop making offers, no matter how much time passes?
My papa, whom I used to adore and find incredibly attractive, no longer seems appealing to me. I know it may be strange for me to think this way when we met through a club, but I've lost interest and am wondering whether I should end things.
What kind of feelings should I have if I continue seeing my current papa?
Or would I be better off ending things with him, finding a papa with whom I can have a more transactional relationship, and starting over with someone new?
I’m Aya, a female member.
That’s really sad.
He may not realize how much he appreciates you, so it might be a good idea to give him some space and see what happens.
If that papa (a male supporter) is the type who can’t stop making offers and wants to see lots of women, he probably won’t change. But if he’s the type who has clearly said he wants to be with just one person, there’s a good chance he’ll stop after you talk things through.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
If your feelings have cooled, it’s probably best to end things.
Next time, I think you should first confirm whether the man is the type to focus on one woman or not.
If a man who normally focuses on one woman continues making offers, that’s an act of betrayal.
But men who don’t limit themselves to one woman continue making offers because they want to enjoy relationships with various women.
Please understand that’s just how it is.
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That’s true of pretty much anything: the person doing it doesn’t really think about how the other person feels. Even if they pretend to, they’re still interpreting things in whatever way suits them.
Why not take some distance from him and see how your feelings change—and how he responds?
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I’m a male member who goes by Paper Airplane.
I don’t think you can stop someone who won’t stop. Probably…
When it comes down to it,
> keeps making offers
There really are two types: men who keep making offers and women who keep accepting them, and men and women who don’t.
Personally, I make a lot of offers while looking for a good partner, but once I meet someone I’m compatible with, I don’t keep making offers.
Given how you feel now, you might be more satisfied looking for men who are different from your current type.
That said, if you can keep things transactional, men who have many partners they repeatedly make offers to won’t notice even if you have multiple papas, so they’ll easily believe you when you say, “You’re my only papa,” making it possible to continue the relationship without much trouble.
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I’m Basil, a male club member.
I’m also someone who can’t stop accepting offers. It’s not so much that I’m dissatisfied with the woman I’m seeing now—it’s just that the grass always looks greener on the other side.
There may be exceptions, but I think most men in these clubs are like this. Whether you continue seeing your current partner or move on to someone else, you simply have to accept that getting both money and a man’s heart is difficult.
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I’m a male member named Kazu.
The only way to know for sure is to ask that papa, but I think something may be missing. I don’t think one woman can fulfill everything a man is looking for. He may be looking for another woman who can provide something you can’t.
The only way to find out what that is is to ask him directly. If you’re considering ending things, why not take the plunge and ask what’s missing? It may be something surprisingly minor.
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