Is a papa (a male supporter) who gives me a ¥100,000 allowance for two adult relationships (intimate) per month a good papa?
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This is my first time doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), and since I’m in my 30s, I’m not sure whether this amount is reasonable or too low.
A woman I know who works in the nightlife industry told me it was too little…
I’m asking because I’d appreciate hearing your opinions. Thank you.
I’m Aya, a female member.
As for whether he’s a good papa (a male supporter), it really depends on your compatibility with him, so it’s hard to say. If you enjoy spending time with him for that amount, I think it’s perfectly fine. But if it’s painful or unpleasant, then no matter how much allowance you receive, he can’t really be called a good papa.
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I’m Hikōki, a male member.
papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) isn’t supposed to be a job—you get paid while enjoying yourself, which is incredibly lucky.
The moment you start wondering whether the amount is fair, though, it becomes work, and work comes with its share of hardship.
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At Universe Club, the going rate for an adult relationship (intimate) is 6 or more.
So 5 might be a little low.
That said, allowance is subjective, so I can’t say whether the allowance you’re receiving is high or low.
You might be getting 5 even though the usual rate is 4, or your papa (a male supporter) might simply be stingy despite it being reasonable for you to receive 6.
For reference, the going rate in Nagoya is 7 or more.
—Lose-man
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This is Saito♪, a columnist.
There really isn’t any fixed “going rate.” I think you should meet one-on-one and simply walk away if you’re not happy with the terms.
At a sex-work establishment, you can find someone quite attractive for ¥50,000, while in the real world, you can even date a beautiful woman or celebrity for free if it’s genuine love.
Sex workers also have part of their earnings taken by the establishment. I’m not entirely sure of the details, but perhaps you could try working at your friend’s place and get a feel for the going rate yourself.
(Your friend would be happy, since they’d receive a referral fee.)
For that man’s sake as well, I think you should end things promptly if you’re not interested.
That’s how the “going rate” is established.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
That’s exactly why I don’t like women who work in the nightlife industry.
If you’re not satisfied with your dates with him, you can simply end things.
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I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member.
People tend to think in terms of how much they should receive per meeting, but as Mr./Ms. Kamihikōki often says, I think it’s better to consider the amount per month—or even per year—as the result of sharing enjoyable time together.
I don’t think anyone is ever completely satisfied, no matter how much they receive, but I feel it’s best to look at yourself in the mirror and decide what feels right for you.
Thinking in terms of “per meeting” feels too much like the adult entertainment business—too commercial, too transactional, and too focused on one-off, pay-per-meeting arrangements. I’m not a fan of it.
Of course, maybe that’s because so many arrangements seem to end after just one or two meetings…
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I’m Ayase Nana ♡
So it’s ¥100,000 for two meetings a month, right? That comes to ¥50,000 per meeting. Since two or three people here also said ¥50,000 per meeting, I think that’s perfectly reasonable.
A lot of people say ¥30,000 per meeting, so let’s be satisfied with that.
If he asks to do it without protection, that’s for you to decide. You’re the one who’ll be left crying if you catch an STD.
“Nightlife work”? Did you mean sex work? Do you really want other people to decide your worth?
All anyone can say here is roughly what the going rate is.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
Whether he’s a good papa (a male supporter) is really up to how you feel about him. I don’t think it’s for other people to judge.
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