I’ve thought this for a long time, but if you really want to understand the essence of women’s sexual desire, the best way is to become close with several women in their 40s, have sex with them, and listen to them talk openly about various deeper matters.

I’m jealous of you flag-makers. No matter how hard I chase, they always run away, and I keep getting rejected. I’m a rejection-maker. Ma

Maezawa from the CEO’s Office here as well. That’s an interesting theory. Still, I don’t think all women over 40 are like that, so I wonder if women become that way only when certain conditions come together. I’m not sure exactly what those conditions are, but speaking generally: After getting married and having children, their husbands may stop seeing them as women. Other men around them may stop seeing them that way too, while their children naturally see them only as their mother. Then, if they stop being intimate with their husbands as well, they may start feeling more strongly that they’re women too. Those feelings build up, and when they meet a man who sees them as a woman, everything may suddenly explode. That’s how I imagine it, at least. So I also feel that women who don’t end up in those circumstances may not become that way. I get the impression that even husbands who are intimate with them are sometimes told things like, “You won’t even go down on me.”

I’m Flagmaker, a column writer. In my everyday life, I’m the one women in their 40s and up try to “devour.” I’m basically their “prey.” Mack-san, I’m sure you know what industry I work in, but there are seriously a lot of predatory women. The moment they see an opening, they come after me. People in other industries tell me they’re jealous, but I’m barely managing to escape. Honestly, it scares me, lol. I’m not joking—I’ve been so terrified after being invited out that I’ve actually run all the way to the station to get away a few times, afraid I was going to be “devoured.” So when I meet someone through a club or something, I don’t go there. ^^

Good morning. I’m Joe, a male member. I don’t have nearly as much experience as Mac, but I found myself strongly agreeing with Mac’s opinions. I’ve always loved women in their 40s. A big reason is that, when I was in my 20s, I briefly dated a woman in her 40s. She had given birth before, and although her body was, to put it bluntly, somewhat relaxed, I discovered that there was something incredibly erotic about it. I always enjoyed sex with her. I made offers to several women in their 40s through Universe Club, and they were all wonderfully alluring. Recently, I met a married woman in her 40s outside the club. She and her husband have a good relationship and apparently still have an intimate relationship twice a week. Because she considered that perfectly normal, she didn’t seem to realize how sensual she was. So Joe stepped in, so to speak（笑）. She has given birth to three children, so among the women I’ve been with, she has the most physically relaxed body—sorry!—but her sensuality is also top-class. Once again, I was reminded of the appeal of women in their 40s. The women registered with Universe may be different, but I suspect that many women in their 40s generally don’t realize their own appeal. Please have more confidence! I may get booed for saying this, but please know that quite a few men are attracted to relaxed bodies（according to Joe’s research）. I invited this particular woman to the gym I attend, and we now go together. Even a little training firms up a relaxed body and makes her even more attractive. By the way, before joining the club, I wasn’t attracted to women in their 50s, but I’m happy to say that has become a thing of the past.

There seem to be all kinds of different people in their 40s. Personally, since I’ve been this way since my late teens and have a curvy, sensual figure, I’m probably more likely to be seen as a sexual prospect. So I’ve never had anyone not want me, and I don’t really feel like I’m desperately chasing after things. Maybe I’ll become like that in a few years, when I start losing my feminine appeal. I’m curious to see what I’ll be like then—or whether I’ll even change at all. I wonder how long the papas in their 60s will keep this up, haha. I’d better cherish my handsome, older papa around my age, as well as my younger friends-with-benefits. Marika Sorry—partway through, I realized that what Mac-san was saying differed from what I had in mind, so I edited my comment. That probably made things confusing for those who quoted me.

I’m Dai, a male member. I’ve never been with a woman in her 40s, so I’m practically a virgin myself. Lately, the women I date have been getting a little older, and I’m just starting to appreciate what’s great about women in their mid-20s. With younger women, I sometimes get the feeling that they’re interested, but scared to go any further—that they can’t quite take that next step. For example, they might be done after reaching climax once. This is just speculation, but I wonder if women in their 40s can cross that line because of their uncontrollable sex drive, so to speak. I want to have fun, athletic sex, so I’d love to spend time with that kind of sexually assertive woman. But since I’ve always preferred younger women, maybe it’s still too soon for me, haha.

I’ve never experienced a sexless relationship, so this is only based on things I’ve heard and imagined, but— When you’re married and reach a point where you’re no longer treated as a woman at all, I think there are people who can let it go, thinking, “Well, I’m exhausted from raising the kids, so whatever…” and people who can’t. Those who can let it go tend to find their sense of purpose in their children. Gradually, their husband becomes family—the father of their children. Those who can’t seem to struggle and experience a great deal of conflict, though I don’t know whether that ultimately leads them to look outside the marriage. As for the changes I’ve experienced with age, even if I don’t have the same feelings Mac-san describes—wanting it and wanting to be desired—being told I’m cute and being wanted by men may unconsciously be connected to my emotional stability. Akari

I’m Taro, a male member. I hear women in their 40s are apparently quite popular. I usually go for women in their 20s to early 30s, so women in their 40s feel much older to me. When I hear someone talk about “the essence of sexual desire,” I think, “Huh, interesting,” but I’m not some spiritual seeker, so I don’t think I’d go as far as doing something against my own preferences. I’m the type who’d rather walk up the mountain on my own, getting lost along the way and making it to the third station, than take a bus to the fifth station and climb from there to the summit. Looking back, I used to avoid women in their early 30s ten years ago, so my age range has gradually expanded upward over the past decade. At this rate, in about 20 years I may have the opportunity to meet women in their 40s and catch a glimpse of the essence of sexual desire. By the way, the year before last, I even received an invitation from the Shinjuku Ni-chome crowd along the lines of, “Once you’re over 50, you should come over to our side.” I’m truly honored to have received advice from so many different quarters. I intend to think carefully and decide which path to take.

I’m Osaka, a male member. Hmm... (゜-゜) This isn’t really ringing a bell, so I guess that makes me a “semi-virgin.” I’ve never really thought about the essence of a sexually assertive woman’s desire, but I’m very curious. Does that mean there’s something you awaken to once you reach your 40s? Or is there some other side of things that you can only experience with women in their 40s? I wonder if there are things you can’t get from younger, sexually assertive women. My imagination is running wild lol. I feel like I might end up becoming one of those totally passive older guys lol (T_T) P.S. It’s true—I’ve never experienced someone begging so desperately that they actually prostrated themselves before me. So I guess I’m definitely a semi-virgin lol. That said, when I’ve been asked for a second or third round, I have felt like I was the one being devoured, so maybe I’d actually feel scared lol. Ah, I guess this overlaps with Flag Maker’s comment lol.

I’m Paper Airplane, a male member. If you ask about women’s true nature, I think they’re generally fine without sex. But I doubt you can become close enough to someone to ask that. Not even married couples, probably… Women who are sexually adventurous are rare, not just among those in their 40s. Still, some are just as sexually driven as men—or even more so. But unlike men, even those women may go nearly a year without sex at times… so I suppose they do still have a feminine side… There are so many discoveries that make you go, “Wow, I never thought of that.” It’s not just about sexual compatibility. Women vary enormously in how interested they are. Their way of thinking and their attitudes toward sex are fascinating in themselves. > A man who has dated a sexually adventurous woman in her 40s Outside of clubs, through ordinary dating, many people probably continue relationships until around that age. But what about women who are sexually adventurous? One of my long-term girlfriends has been with me for decades and is now in her late 40s… Marika, You’re right. I was mistaken. Of course, they’re not fine without it. What I meant was that they can survive without sex. Wait—are you saying they can’t live without it? Mac, I’ve never personally encountered a woman in her 40s—or any age—who would do absolutely anything just to have someone sleep with her. But there was one woman I met more than 25 days a month, over 300 days a year—over 400 times in total—so I had the chance to encounter many different women around her. Sexually adventurous women can be even more intense than men. I was astonished by how voraciously some of them pursued men. And yet she was married? Didn’t her husband get angry? Didn’t they separate? What’s more, she was incredibly beautiful—beautiful enough that I could understand why men wouldn’t leave her and would forgive her everything. And yet, why would she give money to a hostess, have her go on dates with her on her days off, and sleep with her? It was unbelievable. Even when her friends tried to stop her and reason with her, and even when she herself said she would quit, after a while she would return to it and start indulging again… She was like a sexually voracious beast. I’ve never seen a man that sexually driven. As Mac wrote, perhaps because they’re women, once they get hooked, there’s no limit and no brakes. Women really are astonishing… I’ve written this before, but I believe sex is really meant for women. They can live without sex, which allows them to keep themselves in check. That’s why they’re able to feel so intensely and climax over and over again. I envy them so much that sometimes I feel like I should be the one getting paid. That’s why I’ve never really been able to accept the idea that men should pay an allowance for an adult relationship (intimate), no matter how much time passes.

I’m Nana Ayase ♡ The truth is, the men I’ve been involved with range widely in age—from 19 to 93. I think some men assume women in their 40s are dirty, overweight, smelly, unattractive, or “loose.” But if they take proper care of themselves, there are actually plenty of women in their 40s who have a healthy glow, can do quite a lot, and have decent figures. To the men who have dated women in their 40s, what do you think? ☆ Mac, you really do know women in their 40s well. Sometimes I seek my reason for living through intimacy and feel that it’s okay for me to be alive—especially when I’m feeling a little down… I need the pleasure we share with each other, even every day. I love being affectionate and intimate, and I want to keep touching each other, even if it’s just a little. I don’t know… I’m feeling very lonely.