There was a post about comments, so I thought I’d share my own thoughts on the subject.

I’m Saito, a columnist and male member♪ I think most people probably feel the same way as you do… There are also plenty of male members who don’t care at all and never even look at the comments section. The people around me don’t pay any attention to it, so please keep in mind that members come in all types.

Maezawa here, answering as well. You’re absolutely right. Men often want to have a woman all to themselves, while still dating other women themselves. Of course, there have also been men who didn’t date other women in exchange for exclusivity, so it’s not true of every man. Still, I think there are more men who date multiple women. One woman told me: “I was surprised at first, but now I’ve come to accept that’s just how things are.” She’s a very understanding and open-minded woman. I think it’s better to accept that men are simply wired this way and take appropriate precautions. In the end, men are more likely to see you as a good woman that way. In this case, does that mean you’re thinking of not updating your comments? If there are men who want exclusivity, then even without updating your comments—even if your profile ends up on a later page—I think they’ll still find you and make an offer. That said, as you mentioned, ideally we should avoid making men feel hurt. I agree with your opinion. However, in reality, the male members don’t always act that way… ＞＜

Aizawa from Universe Tokyo here. As you said, it goes both ways, right?! He’s seeing other people besides you too, so he shouldn’t be possessive of you alone! I think that’s absolutely fair. But I suppose it’s part of the sad nature of men: even if dating other people goes both ways, it can still feel unpleasant. Especially when the other person is someone important to you. So I understand that you may not be able to accept it, but perhaps it’s best to just think, “He still likes me—how cute,” and let it slide. I don’t think anything good will come from arguing back with, “You do it too!” So just brush it off by saying, “I was only venting like I would on Twitter—sorry!” and continue maintaining a good relationship. As for connections among male members, I’ve heard from female members that some groups of several dozen men have been formed to critique one another. I don’t know how much of that is true, but it’s scary, isn’t it…? That said, I’ve actually heard of the reverse happening too. I suppose this is another case of it going both ways. In any event, people do notice our actions, and sooner or later they come back to us. I hope you’ll remember to treat your partner with respect on every date.