I clean my papa’s house, but he never says anything, so is it okay if I stop doing it?
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It’s his second house, not somewhere he lives all the time, but sometimes work keeps him busy and he leaves before I do. That happens pretty often, and when it does, trash—used protection, food, and so on—is left lying around, so I clean everything up before I leave to keep bugs from appearing. But he never says anything, every time. I clean the toilet and the bathroom too. I sort all the trash and even dispose of the plastic bottles that were already there before I arrived. I know I’m doing things nobody asked me to do, but I’d still like him to acknowledge it at least a little.
If I just left without doing anything, what would a man think? Would he think, “That girl could show a little consideration”? I’m pretty sure there would be swarms of gnats by the next time my papa came over.
Maezawa from the CEO’s Office here.
If you suddenly stop doing something you’ve always done, the man may start wondering, “Huh?”
Once he takes it for granted that you’ll do it, he may start thinking negatively, like, “Why isn’t she doing it anymore?”
So if it bothers you, I think it’s better to talk it over.
You could say, “I’ve been tidying up until now, but from now on, you should take care of your own home,” and then stop doing it. That might make him realize what’s really going on.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
If the allowance were good, you might be able to think, “Well, I guess this is part of the job.” But I get the feeling you’re unhappy because the allowance is too low. Personally, I wouldn’t clean.
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I’m Osaka, a male member.
At this point, it’s basically a married couple having trouble seeing eye to eye, lol. You’re not actually married, so you don’t have to force it, but it might be good to talk it out as if you were having a marital spat, lol.
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
I think it’s best to consider that part of the allowance too.
If you don’t do anything, I wonder what will happen…
It may make ending the arrangement more likely.
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If it’s bothering you, I think you should say something. You use it too, so you wouldn’t want bugs getting in there either.
Why not bring it up in a cute, gentle way?
That said, it seems marriage may not be for you, so I hope you continue to cherish your life as a mistress.
In marriage, there are so many things you don’t get thanked for every single time (though it depends on the person).
If anything, it makes me think I should appreciate even the little things and say, “Thank you.”
—Akari
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I suppose it’s become the norm now.
Still, I’ve always thought that asking other people here won’t solve anything, so you should talk it over with your partner. I don’t think this site is meant for questioners to seek validation from other respondents just to feel better.
If you ask whether it’s okay to buy some cleaning supplies, or casually make it clear that you’ve been cleaning, you can probably get a word of thanks out of him.
If you leave without cleaning in your current relationship, I think you’ll eventually just be replaced by another woman who will.
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